How to Move On from Someone Who Likes You but Isn’t Ready for a Serious Relationship
A Reddit user shared their experience in a situationship with someone they are attracted to, but who has never shown any signs of wanting a serious relationship. Despite having a strong emotional connection and daily communication.
The user recognizes that the person is not willing to put in effort for a deeper relationship. The user wants to move on emotionally, but they are struggling due to the strong support the person provides in their life. Read the full story below…
‘ How to Move On from Someone Who Likes You but Isn’t Ready for a Serious Relationship’
I (33 f) have known S (33 m) for one year. We met and have been in contact daily since then. At one point he came to visit me in my country. He is generally a lovely person and I am very attracted to him.
But I don’t believe he is interested in me in any sort of serious regard. It would be difficult given out fields of work / different nationalities but not impossible to explore a relationship. But he has never given me an indication that he is interested in persuing one.
Thus I can only assume he does not want one with me. Which is disappointing, but I don’t want to dwell where I’m not wanted. I have a history of people pleasing and am trying to honour my own wants and needs.
So what should I do to emotionally move on from someone who likes me but not enough to put any actual effort in (aka they don’t like me) yet is a big part of my support network? I have a few treasured friends but none that I speak to daily like him. So idk what to do. Thank you for perspectives! TLDR how to move on from situationship.
Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:
kirstanley − Have you ever asked him if he sees this turning into a relationship? It sounds like you’ve made a lot of assumptions without really knowing what he may be thinking or feeling.
Aggressive_Sky8492 − Just actually ask him if he wants a serious relationship, because you’d like one. You’re assuming and skipping the crucial step of actually communicating what you want.
For all you know he’s doing the same thing. Your description sure makes it seems like he wants something serious. If he confirms he isn’t interested in a relationship, THEN you can look at moving on. Stop talking regularly and date others.
Do you think the user should completely detach from this person to move forward, or is it possible to maintain a friendship while healing emotionally? How would you handle a situationship where one person is emotionally invested, but the other isn’t? Share your thoughts below and join the conversation!