AITA for threatening my roommate with eviction for moving her boyfriend in ?

A Redditor and their girlfriend are dealing with a roommate who secretly moved her boyfriend into their shared apartment. The boyfriend, who’s jobless, carless, and seemingly entitled, has overstayed his welcome, disrupting their lives and causing tension. After repeated warnings, they threatened to evict their roommate if her boyfriend doesn’t leave. Are they in the wrong, or are their boundaries reasonable? Read the full story below!

‘ AITA for threatening my roommate with eviction for moving her boyfriend in ?’

My girlfriend and i live in a two bedroom apartment together and had to get a new roommate. 2 months in of being here she brings her boyfriend here introduced us and that’s it. He had stayed past a week and we just thought he was on vacation or something. He’s been here for a month.

Turns out he thinks he lives here. He’s nearly 30 has no car, no job, and no respect. He sits in her bedroom 24/7 even when she is not here playing video games and yelling, using up our toilet paper, body wash, electricity, stealing our food and etc.

We overheard him talking badly about all of us and him claiming he lives here and isn’t leaving. Not to mention he’s been in the bathroom every morning we have to get ready for work. In short we told her he had to leave, he makes us uncomfortable, he’s disrespectful and a leach that is no longer staying with us.

She said she was going to take him home, 3 days later he’s still here and comes and makes a childish apology stating he says things without thinking. The next day once AGAIN he is sitting in the room making noise while she is not here. I had to threaten her with an eviction if she did not take him home soon AITA for being uncomfortable with this unwanted stranger in the house?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

19×42 −  Probably wouldn’t have gone into any more detail than, “He’s not paying rent and can’t stay here.”

Draglitch −  NTA. He could be the most polite man ever, but he’s not paying rent and is a stranger in your home. You can want him gone for those reasons alone. The fact that he’s a childish, rotten little leech only justifies you further.

eowynsheiress −  NTA. Contact your landlord and let them evict this leech.

Forward-Dingo1431 −  NTA. Take immediate steps if he is not gone. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

k23_k23 −  NTA. Why only threaten? Evict her.

CakeisaDie −  30 days means you might need to evict him and her because he might have tenancy.

Queen_of_Heartsxoxo −  Listen . Don’t you feel bad because that was never the original agreement and it’s an apartment not a big house . Having you significant other over often is one thing but just moving your sketchy boyfriend into the house without talking to everybody else about it is just disrespectful especially given the specific examples you provided of him being rude .

Taking up the bathroom when you need to be getting ready etc . You better have a serious conversation because your house is supposed to be a sanctuary

Mermaid-Grenade −  NTA. Until he’s out, lock up your toiletries and cut off the Internet when y’all leave.

fernswordgirl432 −  NTA unless he’s legally on the lease? Because if he’s not, go directly to your landlord. You don’t want to get evicted yourself for violating the lease, and they are usually written stating clearly that visitors can only stay for X amount of time.

It’s not even a question of being a j**k, it’s a question of keeping your housing in a very inflated and competitive market. This guy isn’t a roommate, he’s a parasite.

Do it the right way, tell GF that her boyfriend isn’t on the lease, needs to leave, and then you vet a real roommate, follow up on references, make sure they can pay the first and last and utilities before THEN asking your landlord for permission to add them to the lease.

Equal-Brilliant2640 −  Tell her “you have X days to move out and take your leech with you” find out what the legal minimum number of days is (usually 30-60) and don’t budge on it. When she gets upset, tell her “we already told you he was not welcome here and you ignored us.

So now you have to leave too. I will be filing a formal eviction on X date. Let me know if you need help packing your stuff up” And don’t budge, make sure you let the landlord know what’s going on as well. Maybe let them know first, that way she can’t play the victim. You may need their help in getting her and the leech out

Do you think the Redditor is justified in setting this firm boundary, or should they have handled it differently? Have you ever dealt with a roommate bringing in an uninvited guest? Share your perspective below!