UPDATE: AITAH for wanting to give up my son after discovering he isn’t mine?
Thanks to everyone who reached out with advice and support. I didn’t get to respond to every message, but I really appreciate it.
First, please read my original post: https://aita.pics/LdRZh
‘ UPDATE: AITAH for wanting to give up my son after discovering he isn’t mine?’
After finding out my son isn’t biologically mine, I decided to tell both my family and my in-laws. My family was shocked and angry about everything, but they stood by me. My in-laws were also shocked but didn’t believe it at first. They asked to see the DNA test results, and after seeing them, they suggested we do a second test with both families present, just to be sure.
They said that if it confirmed he isn’t mine, my late wife’s sister (who has a 4-year-old daughter) would adopt him, and I could take my name off the birth certificate if I wanted. I agreed, and we did the test yesterday. Results should come in about a week.
Honestly, I’m relieved with how things are playing out. There hasn’t been any drama, and everyone’s been understanding. I’ve also talked to a lawyer who said getting my name off the certificate should be straightforward with the test results.
Thank you all again for the support, and for those who offered to adopt him, I’m sorry, but your kindness means a lot. I’ll update when the final results are in. Also, English isn’t my first language, so I used GPT to help with formatting and phrasing.
Edit: For those accusing me of karma farming, I’m going to delete this account after all this is over.
The final update: https://aita.pics/ZrqBq
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
Sanquinoxia − NTA. This is heartbreaking knowing the last living piece of your wife’s memory is now just a reminder of her betrayal.
broadsharp2 − My goodness, OP. After this horrible ordeal, I truly hope you can find peace.. Best wishes.
FairyFartDaydreams − I’m glad they are testing both side of the family just in case a mistake happened at the hospital.
JohnRedcornMassage − Well, this is an awful situation, but the solution seems to be the best possible outcome: He gets to move on without baggage, and the baby gets to be raised by loving family.
Upbeat_Salary_3629 − This whole situation sounds so tough, but it’s great to see everyone being so supportive and understanding. Family stepping up like this shows a lot of love, honestly. Hope everything goes smoothly with the next steps 💕
CaffeineFueledLife − Am I the only one who thinks it’s super weird when strangers on a social media app ask to adopt a kid?
OliveMammoth6696 − Im glad you guys were able to resolve the situation.
Ginger630 − NTA! The baby is only 7 months old. He won’t remember you. I’m glad your SIL can raise him.
-AdequatelyMediocre- − Anyone with a shred of empathy would understand why you feel the way you feel. I’m so sorry this happened, but thank goodness you found out now and not in 20 years. I really hope you are able to find peace. Don’t beat yourself up about this decision. It’s the right thing for everyone involved.
MrOceanBear − Glad the sister is up to adopt. Updateme.