UPDATE: AITA for wanting to go to the funeral of a girl that I helped get addicted to drugs?

A Reddit user recently posted about their difficult decision regarding whether or not to attend the funeral of a friend they had introduced to drugs. Seeking advice, they faced the emotional challenge of honoring their friend’s memory while considering the impact their presence might have on the family and their own recovery.

After thoughtful guidance from both their sponsor and online commenters, they made a choice that helped them find some peace. Read the full update below.

‘ UPDATE: AITA for wanting to go to the funeral of a girl that I helped get addicted to drugs?’

I want to sincerely thank everyone who commented. Everyone’s comments were appreciated, including those that were less than pleasant. Since I received such great advice on my original post, I felt like I had an obligation to update. And I’m trying to follow through on all aspects of my life, even internet ones.

The funeral service was held this past Thursday. Before then, I brought all the advice I received online and brought it to the real world and talked to both my therapist and sponsor about how I was feeling and what I should do.

My sponsor was straight with me and told me that I would be putting myself in danger by going and that I should do something else that day to grieve. When Thursday rolled around, I was a mess. I seriously considered both just going to the funeral or using again but instead I grabbed my dog and we went on a road trip.

We went to the beach and just hung out the two of us. I’m doing okay this week, but obviously am still not doing great. I haven’t reached out to any of Marcy’s family and I don’t plan to. I understand now how devastating that would be.. That’s it.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

AITAMod −  We’ve chosen to lock this update due to the high volume of rule violating comments in the [original post.] We felt this update should be shared because we appreciate when an “a**hole” takes our community’s feedback into consideration to right their wrongs, and we regret that we can’t allow a conversation here..

Do you think the user made the best choice for their recovery and to respect Marcy’s family? How would you navigate grieving while prioritizing your mental health? Share your insights below!