AITA for exposing my husbands affair with his “girl best friend” at a family BBQ after his father told me to get over it?

A Reddit user recently shared how she exposed her husband’s affair with his lifelong friend, Megan, at a family BBQ after her father-in-law told her to “get over” her discomfort with their relationship. Having endured her husband’s distant behavior and finally discovering the betrayal, she’d kept quiet while trying to process it.

However, during the BBQ, when her father-in-law implied she was simply “jealous,” she reached her breaking point, revealing the affair to everyone. While her mother-in-law stood by her, her father-in-law accused her of “causing drama.” Read the full story below to see how this intense confrontation unfolded.

 

‘ AITA for exposing my husbands affair with his “girl best friend” at a family BBQ after his father told me to get over it?’

I (29F) have been married to my husband (31M) for five years. We’ve had a good relationship overall, but there’s always been one issue: his “girl best friend,” Megan (30F). She’s been in his life since childhood, and while I’ve always felt a bit uneasy about their closeness, I trusted my husband and tried to be cool with it.

Megan is always around. She’s at our house constantly, they text all the time, and she even comes on family vacations with us. Every time I brought up how their friendship made me uncomfortable, my husband would brush it off, saying she’s “practically a sister” and that I was overreacting.

To make matters more complicated, my mother-in-law (58F) is amazing. She’s always had my back and has told me multiple times that if Megan made me uncomfortable, I should talk to my husband about setting boundaries. On the other hand, my father-in-law (60M) has a very different attitude.

He adores Megan and has always said that she’s part of the family and that I “just need to deal with it.” He thinks my discomfort with their friendship is just “jealousy.” Fast forward to two months ago. My husband started acting distant. Coming home late, being secretive with his phone, and just… off.

I had a gut feeling something was wrong, so one night, I went through his phone while he was in the shower. That’s when I found out—he and Megan had been having an affair for months. I was crushed. I confronted him, and he admitted everything.

He swore it was a mistake, said he loved me, and begged me not to leave him. I didn’t know what to do, so I stayed quiet for a bit, trying to process everything. A couple of weeks later, my in-laws hosted a big family BBQ.

I was still reeling from the affair, but my husband convinced me to come, saying we needed to “keep up appearances” while we worked things out. I went, but I was a wreck inside, especially knowing Megan would be there.

Sure enough, Megan showed up like nothing had happened, acting all friendly with everyone, including me. I was boiling inside, but I kept it together. Then, during dinner, my father-in-law made some offhand comments about how Megan would “always be part of the family” and that I needed to “get over” my insecurities.

He said this in front of everyone. That was my breaking point. I stood up, looked straight at him, and said, “You know what? I would get over it if she wasn’t sleeping with my husband.” The entire table went silent. Megan’s face turned white, and my husband tried to calm me down, but I wasn’t having it.

I told everyone exactly what had been going on—the sneaking around, the lies, the betrayal. My mother-in-law was furious, but not at me. She laid into my husband and Megan, saying they’d destroyed our marriage and disrespected me.

My father-in-law, though, had the audacity to say I was “overreacting” and that “affairs happen” but I shouldn’t have aired it out in front of the family. He even defended Megan, saying she made a “mistake” and we should all move on.

I left the BBQ and have been staying with my mom ever since. My husband keeps begging me to come home, and my mother-in-law has been supportive, but my father-in-law is telling the whole family that I’m the one causing drama and blowing things out of proportion.

AITA for exposing their affair in front of everyone at the BBQ? Should I have kept it private, or was I right to call them out after everything?

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Bubbledew08 −  Props to you for standing up for yourself and not letting your father-in-law’s comments slide. And hey, at least now you know why your husband was always so accommodating to Megan…

badbrother420 −  I hope the next update enlightens us that ex husband in fact slept with his half sister, then the next one is she’s pregnant with an i**est baby.. Probably not real, but enjoyable.

Unkle_bad-touch −  Oooh another “she’s like a sister” turned i**est story! It’s a hot topic right now apparently… I suppose these hills aren’t gonna billy themselves! ETA: read the text, you’ve got a fairly solid admission there so nail his nuts to the wall and don’t forget to tell all his friends he fucked his sister

tiggergirluk76 −  I mean I want this to be true due to juicyness, but so many updates within an hour, it can’t possibly be real.

DB080822 −  this is so fake

SnooRadishes9726 −  No way this is real.  You had me until the part about the FIL possibly being Megan’s dad. 

allgonetoshit −  These fake stories are all the same.

FSmertz −  Hmmmm. This sounds like a clone of PsychFactor’s story from two months ago. There are at least 6 parts to it, but essentially the OP’s husband has been reproducing with his BFF. Turns out that they are siblings as the husband’s father had an affair that resulted in the BFF.

Alae_Blossom −  Has anyone else read another story just like this one, just with different names?

Do you think the Reddit user was justified in exposing her husband’s affair at the family BBQ, given the father-in-law’s repeated dismissal of her feelings? How would you handle a situation where someone close to you undermines your trust? Share your thoughts in the comments below!