Atiah for not letting my sister live with me after her husband died ?
A Reddit user wonders if he’s wrong for refusing to let his sister move in after the tragic death of her husband. Despite wanting to help her, he feels her spending habits and history of entitlement would lead to the same cycle of dependence, especially after seeing how she’s used up her savings on designer clothes and accessories. Read his story below.
‘ Atiah for not letting my sister live with me after her husband died ?’
Me (37M) and my Sister (35F) me and my sister were raised in a very small town, we weren’t that wealthy and we used to share a room. Ever since she was little she was always the typical bratty, ungrateful teenager that was basically her entire personality. Every time she got something or someone did something for her she wouldn’t be grateful for them.
When she was 25 she got married to her husband who is now is deceased. He passed away in 2023 from a car accident. Ever since he passed my sister couldn’t get over it. It’s been a year now and she is still recovering.
Before her husband passed away she used to always ask me for money as I do make quite a bit (not to brag) I used to give it to her every time and never received a thank you or anything. And the one time I forgot my wallet while we were at lunch, she payed but asked me to e transfer her the money back.
Which kind of sums up her personality. Ever since her husband passed she refuses to work (she has a university degree) and lives of my parents savings (they both passed) It’s been a year and she calls asking me if she could come over. It was out of nowhere but I still said yes since she is my sister.
She arrives looking like she just stepped out of a fashion show with designer clothes, bags, and shoes. She asked me if she can live with me since she ran out of savings. But I can clearly see where she used up the savings.
I even asked her what she did with the money and she said that she used it up on clothes and accessories for herself and lived with her boyfriend until he broke up with her. I then refused to let her live with me as the same cycle would’ve started again. Aitah for not letting my sister live with me
Check out how the community responded:
Mother_Search3350 − NTAH.. She can sell all those things on marketplace and rent herself an apartment. Stop enabling her behavior and laziness and giving her money. She isn’t recovering from her husbands d**th, she already had a boyfriend who dumped her stupid ass
seanthebean24 − NTA “Sister, your husband may have been ok with you doing nothing but I will not be financially responsible for a grown adult that should be working. You have a degree and are perfectly capable. Either you get a job or you sell all of your designer stuff to afford basic necessities.”
Specific_Anxiety_343 − NTA. Tell her to get a job.
Ok_Childhood_9774 − NTA, and I’m genuinely curious why people tolerate behavior from family that they would never accept from friends. Your sister will have to find a new sugar daddy.
Seagrams7ssu − YTA because this is fake. 2 days ago you were 13, your sister was 11, your parents were alive and your mom was cheating on your dad.
NagaApi8888 − NTAH. She’ll just be an ungrateful drain on your resources, but will not lift a finger if you need help. Protect your peace.
Fredredphooey − NTA. She would spend all your money and refuse to move out and you would need to evict her. She expects about $100k a year it sounds like.
IMAGINARIAN_photos − Wow! You don’t even use different accounts to post totally different stories. You ARE aware that we can see your post from two days ago where you’re 13, right? *RIGHT?*
Emotional-Pickle7113 − You were 13F 2 days ago. At least try harder to fool us.
Academic_Dare_5154 − So, are you 13 or 37?
Do you think he’s being fair in setting boundaries, or should he make an exception given her recent loss? How would you handle a sibling’s request like this, especially if they had a history of financial dependence? Share your thoughts below!
