AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend when she tested me? ?

A Reddit user shared his story of breaking up with his girlfriend after she tested his commitment by pretending she wanted to break up. Having been hurt by past relationships, he values honesty and decided he couldn’t tolerate this “test.” Now, his family thinks he’s being stubborn, and he’s left wondering if he’s the bad guy. Read his full story below.

‘ AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend when she tested me? ?’

When I was 16 years old my girlfriend broke up with me. I was pathetic and begged her to change her mind. I thought I was in love and couldn’t be without her. I was an i**ot. I’m 25 now and I have promised myself I will never do that again. I have had several relationships and a few hook ups. And when they end I am sad but not weak.

I had been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. We met at a social function for people in our line of work. We hit it off and started seeing each other more often then made it exclusive. Recently we have been talking about moving in together. Our city is expensive and we thought we could save some money. Her apartment is bigger than mine but I own mine so we were working stuff out.

Last weekend out of nowhere she says that we are moving too fast. Okay no problem we didn’t make any plans that can’t be undone yet. Nope she said that she wanted to break up because she wasn’t sure I was all in. I said okay. Then she freaked out. Apparently it was a test to see if I would fight for her.

Yeah I don’t do that any more and I do not appreciate mind games. So I told her that I would box up anything of hers that might be at my place and she could pick it up. She accused me of being a cold-hearted a**hole that was only using her for s**. I wasn’t. I thought we had a future.

I wasn’t ready to propose or anything but I thought she was the one. We had met each other’s families and she had spent last Christmas with us. My parents and sister love her. I loved her.

My mom and dad called me to ask what was going in and I told them. They think I am being stubborn. My little sister says I’m being a complete j**k for not forgiving my ex. I just remember crying myself to sleep over a girl and refuse to do it again.. AITAH?

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

14mm3pl4y1ng4m3z −  NTA. Couples shouldn’t test each other. A person puts their trust in their partner. She accused me of being a cold-hearted a**hole that was only using her for s**. Translation: She didn’t want to take responsibility for her actions and shifted the blame on to you to make herself feel better.

somethingstrange87 −  NTA, “tests” are not okay and fighting for someone who says they’re leaving you is disrespectful and saying they don’t know their own mind.

anonymoose036 −  NTA. Nobody likes being the subject of weird relationship mind games, and the people that do it are always so surprised when they get dropped because of it. You can find someone better, someone confident in their relationship with you.

Forsaken-Tiger-9475 −  Nah NTA, and f**k your family opinions too – it’s not them that had to deal with being told you are breaking up as a “test”.
She fucked around and found out, now it backfired she is trying to blame you.

Longwinded_Ogre −  Nope. Anyone that tests their partner like this deserves to be single and isn’t mature, responsible or compassionate enough to be in a relationship. You made the right call. Someone with those kinds of trust issues can’t be in a healthy relationship.

Amazing_Reality2980 −  NTA she’s way too immature to be in a relationship and this whole “testing” a partner is just insane. How does her suddenly out of the blue saying she wants to break up show that she is “all in” or willing to “fight for you”. It’s immature, m**ipulative, and honestly just cruel. D**p her for real and don’t look back.

FictionalContext −  She saying that after a year and a half, she doesn’t know you or trust you? If that’s what she thinks about you, it ain’t ever gonna change. Mind games aside, seems like reason enough right there. She sounds like the type of wife who’d threaten you with divorce to win a petty argument. There ain’t no future with someone like that.

Interesting_Wing_461 −  I’m a woman, and you are NTA. I just don’t believe in the drama, mind games, or have the time for it. And my daughter feels the same.

ProperMagician7405 −  Women who do this are only harming other women. We’ve been saying for years that “No” means “No”. Suddenly because of some tiktok b**lshit, women are “pretending” to d**p their partners, and expecting them to not take that *particular* “No, I don’t want to be with you anymore” as an actual “No”.. F**k that. You break up with someone, you’d better be ready for that relationship to be OVER.. NTA.

[Reddit User] −  NTA if you wanna play games, Milton Bradley has plenty… If you wanna be in a relationship, act like it.

Do you think he was justified in ending the relationship, or should he have given her another chance? How would you feel if a partner “tested” you in this way? Share your opinions below!