AITAH for not making my wife choose between me and her affair partner ?
A Reddit user shared his decision to leave his wife immediately after discovering her affair, without considering reconciliation. He filed for divorce and moved out, determined to move on, despite friends suggesting he should “fight for his marriage.” Read the full story below to see if his approach was fair or if he should have considered working things out.
‘ AITAH for not making my wife choose between me and her affair partner ?’
As soon as I found out I moved out and filed for divorce. Counseling is not on the table. An open relationship is out. I’m not interested in having anything to do with her again. She tried saying that if I asked she would choose me.. Gross.. I don’t want her.
Some of our friends think I should have fought for our marriage. I offer to sleep with them or their wives to see how they feel about the situation then. No one has taken me up on my kind and Christian offer. I am paying my half of the lease on the apartment.
There are four months left. In the meantime I’m going to work and spending my time off at all inclusive resorts. It’s cheaper than getting an apartment for myself. Am I the a**hole for not trying to save our marriage?
These are the responses from Reddit users:
RaccoonPrestigious81 − She tried saying that if I asked she would choose me. You did ask her, at your wedding. Wild of her to say that.. NTA
RealityWhole2332 − NTA. If she was going to choose you, she shouldn’t have had an affair in the first place. I like your response to the friends too.
CatelynsCorpse − It’s so weird when cheaters say s**t like “Why won’t you fight for our marriage?” Like, hey, you could have easily “fought for our marriage” by not f**king someone else but okay, sure make me the bad guy here.. NTA
The_Crown_And_Anchor − NTAH. There’s nothing to save. The marriage ended the second she cheated on you because you are not interested in being her second choice. And even if she chose you, you would be her second choice. Because if you were her first choice, SHE WOULDN’T HAVE CHEATED IN THE FIRST PLACE
Crazy_Atmosphere53 − Nta. You did the right thing.
Stunning-Market3426 − Dude you are so awesome! I love your response about the Christian duty to sleep with their spouse….hahahaha
[Reddit User] − I’m glad to see someone with some damn self respect. The pick me game is pathetic.
vandr611 − NTA. She already made her choice.
BuckWhoSki − “She tried saying that if I asked she would choose me.” That happened at the wedding, she lied. Good riddance. Trust in yourself and move on. You’re a strong individual to take the steps you are doing, you are worth so much more than bs like this in your life. Easiest NTA ever, I would have done the same thing. If that makes me an a**hole, then so be it. It’s unforgivable to me.
amanofcultureisee − “There are four months left. In the meantime I’m going to work and spending my time off at all inclusive resorts. It’s cheaper than getting an apartment for myself.” This is how you “separate” prior to a divorce!!!!! i think this is a brilliant idea
Do you think the user’s choice to walk away from his marriage was the right move, or should he have given reconciliation a chance? How would you handle a similar situation if trust was broken in your relationship? Share your thoughts below!
