AITA if I called my husband disgusting for making fun of my appearance? ?
A Reddit user is grappling with hurt feelings after her husband continually makes mocking comments about her appearance. Despite expressing her discomfort multiple times, his remarks—ranging from teasing about her forehead to calling her feet “hooves”—persist.
After a particularly painful comment about a health issue, she is left questioning whether her anger is justified or if she is overreacting. Is she in the wrong for calling him out on his hurtful behavior? Read the full story below.
‘ AITA if I called my husband disgusting for making fun of my appearance? ?’
AITA for being mad at my husband for making fun of my appearance? Hi everyone, I’m honestly feeling pretty hurt and unsure if I’m overreacting, so I thought I’d ask here. My husband has a habit of making comments about my appearance that feel hurtful.
It started with little things, like touching my forehead and pretending to measure it, saying I have the biggest forehead he’s ever seen. I’ve seen him make fun of other people for this before, calling a girl “the ugliest of them all” because of her forehead, so it really stings when he says that to me.
There have been other comments, too. When I had a pimple, he looked at me disgustedly and asked when it was finally going away because “I’ve had it for a long time.” Another time, as I walked away, he made a comment about how flat my b**t was.
Yesterday was the last straw for me: I was telling him about some issues I’ve been having with my period, spotting outside my normal cycle, and he picked up my feet and, once we finished talking, said they looked like “hooves.” When I got upset, he brushed it off, saying I was only mad because i was on my period.
I’ve told him repeatedly that these comments make me feel insecure and hurt, and I’ve asked him to stop. But he keeps doing it. AITA for being angry about this, or am I overreacting?
See what others had to share with OP:
KaliTheBlaze − “My husband is horribly mean to me, criticizing my appearance in insulting and demeaning ways. Is it my fault?” Of course not, NTA, except to yourself for marrying a man who talks to you and others like this.
_TiberiusPrime_ − Just divorce him.
[Reddit User] − Nta- thats straight up disrespectful. Theres teasing here and there in a relationship and then there is straight up making your partner feel bad. Id honestly have a serious talk with him. If he cant respect you then you shouldnt be with him. You want someone who can playfully tease but respect your boundaries.
Financial_Bear_5071 − NTA. It sounds like he’s become one of those men who thinks that if he puts you down enough, you’ll become so insecure about your looks, that you’ll think you can’t do any better than him. It’s a ploy to ensure you won’t leave him.
It’s time for a straight talk that you won’t tolerate his behaviour any longer. If he still won’t stop, it’s time to start giving him a taste of his own medicine and see how he likes his appearance being torn apart at every opportunity. If that doesn’t work, you have to decide if you want to be with a man who enjoys making you feel bad about yourself.
_s1m0n_s3z − You are, madame, married to an a**hole. NTA. Consider starting loud discussions regarding the adequacy of his penis size, bald spot, or breath whenever you are in mixed company.
lilith310 − Does your husband even like you? NTA. He is, however, a walking red flag. You deserve better.
HowlPen − Hmmm, well we can’t judge a feeling. But I’d say you are definitely NTA if you firmly tell your husband he needs to stop, get counseling, or you’re out. Your husband showed you who he is when he made fun of other people and called a girl the “ugliest.”
He probably treated you a bit differently for a while because he wanted to convince you to marry him. But the “real” him is a person who’s comfortable being cruel, and that was bound to surface eventually. Is this how you want to be treated for the rest of your life?
Literally_Taken − NTA. In fact, you would be spot-on if you did that. He’s intentionally attacking your self-confidence in an effort to control the relationship. His ego is so fragile he needs to pick on your appearance to make himself feel better.
Hold your head high, being confident his statements are not based in fact. Then ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone as miserable as him.
JollySwimmerHere − NTA — His behavior is disrespectful, and it’s not okay for him to dismiss your feelings by blaming them on your period.
lalalemoninthesun − You are not overreacting and you know that. Your gut is not wrong. This man, who is supposed to love and cherish and lift you up, is intentionally cutting you down and consciously trying to make you feel bad about yourself.
This is a MASSIVE problem. I’m not going to do the reddit LEAVE HIM thing (even though I want to), but I would, at minimum, tell him he needs individual counseling and you two need marriage counseling if he has any interest in repairing the harm he has done.. ETA: NTA, of course
Do you think the user is justified in her anger towards her husband’s hurtful comments, or is there a possibility that she’s overreacting? How would you handle a situation where a partner’s jokes cross the line? Share your thoughts below!
