AITA for not supporting my sister who got involved with a deadbeat?

A Redditor shares their dilemma about not supporting their sister (27F), who has gotten involved with an abusive man and is now a single mother struggling to make ends meet. The Redditor, who is financially stable and owns a family home in Colorado, is being asked by their mother and sister to let the sister move into the house rent-free.

However, the Redditor is hesitant due to past financial issues with their sister, who is currently facing eviction for nonpayment and still owes money from a previous favor. The Redditor wonders if they are wrong for not trusting their sister and refusing to offer help. Read the full story below to dive into this family conflict.

‘ AITA for not supporting my sister who got involved with a deadbeat?’

So my sister is 27 got involved with a man that abused her and had his child. She works a slightly above minimum wage job and lives in NY. She has tried to get government assistance but her income is slightly over. This is where I come into the picture.

I do well for myself and after our grandpa passed away I offered to buy out my mother and sister since they wanted to sell his house but I wanted to keep it. The house is in Colorado. I have been fixing it up over the last 3 years. My mother and sister want me to let my sister move into the house.

Now normally I would say sure but I don’t trust my sister. She is currently in eviction proceedings for none payment. If I let her in I know she will not pay me. She still owes me for the time I paid for her to go to Texas for her friends bridal party. I get you supposed to help family when they are in need but idk. I just don’t trust her to do right.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

feminist1946 −  NTA. Your sister is not paying her rent to an unknown third party who is throwing her out on the street. What makes you think she will pay you anything? She will move in and you will have to blow up your family in order to get rid of her. Buy her and your mother out now. This will give her some cash.

Spiraling_Swordfish −  This is simple: NTA. You do not have to house anyone, including family, that you don’t feel comfortable housing.
Tell your mother and/or other sister you won’t stop them from taking her in.

Clean_Factor9673 −  I hope you changed the locks on the house and have a security system with cameras that record.

Worth-Season3645 −  NTA…You bought out your sister’s share. You may be doing well for “yourself”, but that does not mean you are able to support your sister and a child, which is exactly what you what you would be doing.

Square-Minimum-6042 −  NTA. You know if you let her in she and her baby will become your problem.
Not to say you shouldn’t help her, but moving her in is above and beyond. Let your mother take her.

DonWilliam77 −  NTA. You are not obliged to let her move in. I love my sister very much, but i would never have wanted to live with her as an adult. On top she even still owes you money.

No_Cockroach4248 −  You bought your mother and sister out, what happened to their money from the sale of their share of your grandpa’s house? You may do well for yourself, but you are not obliged to house another adult, in particular one who has a history of not paying rent.

You will likely end up having to evict your sister for not paying rent and run the risk that she may thrash your grandpa’s house before being forced to leave. If there is a risk that you may have a squatter at your grandpa’s house, you should consider changing locks and increasing security measures.

Fun_Space_9104 −  NTA, if it wasn’t for you the house would be gone already. You already paid them out for the house and now she wants to live in it rent free because of her poor choices. Don’t let her in or she won’t move out for a long time.

Lou_Dorsett −  NTA. This is a classic situation that always goes bad. Your responsibility for her ended when she went with that deadbeat. She’s his problem now.

Here_IGuess −  NTA. She can’t pay if you’d be counting ting on that. You also don’t want her abuser into the house. Predators prey. If there’s a way that he can try to manipulate you by living there, he will. Don’t unopened yourself up to roundabout abuse or a bunch of legal problems.

Do you think the Redditor is justified in being cautious about offering help, or should they support their sister despite past issues? How would you handle family obligations in a situation like this? Share your thoughts and advice in the comments below!