AITA for telling my kids the real reason me and her father are divorced ?
A mother (38F) reveals to her daughters (aged 15, 12, 9, and 6) the true reason behind her divorce from their father—his affair with her sister. After discovering that her sister had been telling the kids that she was the one who broke up the family, the mother decided to tell her daughters the truth.
Initially met with disbelief, the children were encouraged to ask their grandparents or father for confirmation. The ex-husband reacted angrily, accusing her of trying to ruin their relationship and calling her names. The mother feels justified in telling the kids the truth, but her ex-husband and sister believe she is a “shitty mother” for doing so.
‘ AITA for telling my kids the real reason me and her father are divorced ?’
I 38(f) have a 15, 12 , 9 and 6 year old daughters me and their father got a divorce when my youngest was just 2 years old . My ex husband had an affair with my sister 35 (f) . My ex husband and my sister had been sneaking behind my back and I had found out when I came home early from my shift .
They gave me every excuse in the books , I had waited it out for the sake of my kids to see if my ex husband would stop . 6 months later the affair was still going so I served my ex with divorce papers . But here’s the real thing my sister aka my daughters stepmom had been telling my daughters how I was the one who broke up the marriage .
I found this out when my 6 y/o daughter came up to me crying asking why I broke her family up . I was so confused so I asked her more questions she told me how my sister had been saying I cheated on their father and more bs.
I had called the rest of my daughters down stairs and asked them to tell me what their stepmom had been saying they proceeded to tell me everything . So I had told my daughters the truth I could tell they didn’t believe me at first until I told them to ask their grandparents and father what had really happened .
My daughters had went back to their fathers house this past weekend , when I had got a call from him calling me all types of names in the book and him asking if I wanted to ruin him and our daughters relationship he hung and no less then 10 minutes later my phone was being blown up calling me all the names in the book and saying how I’m “ a s**tty mother” . So AITA? I just noticed the error in the title. ** THEIR
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
QuinGood − NTA. You need to contact an attorney about this situation. They have attempted to poison the girls against you. It’s possible that the custody agreement needs to be changed, with supervised visits only to their father. I hope you can get this worked out.. Hugs and Good Luck
BH_Falcon27 − NTA. Your sister, their stepmom, had been spreading false information to your daughters, which led to confusion and emotional distress for them. As their mother, you have every right to clarify the truth and set the record straight.
Children deserve to know the truth and be able to form their own opinions based on accurate information. It’s not fair for your sister to manipulate the situation and paint you as the one who broke up the marriage. Your actions in telling your daughters to verify the truth with their grandparents and father demonstrate transparency and honesty.
Your ex-husband’s reaction and name-calling are inappropriate and disrespectful. It’s crucial for parents to communicate respectfully and prioritize the well-being of their children. You did the right thing by being honest with your daughters and helping them understand the truth about the divorce.
Aggressive-Mind-2085 − NTA. ” My ex husband had an affair with my sister 35 (f)” .. tell them. Don’t lie to them \_ they NEED to know, because otherwise they will not understand why your family is breaking up.. . And: **You needed to clear up their lies.**
MsMacGyver − My sister would be dead to me. Hurt me and take my husband, I will recover. Hurt my kids like that…you are dead to me. I would be in my lawyer’s office asap.
revmat − NTA. They were being lied to by their father and stepmother, you corrected the lie.
lmmontes − NTA. They lied making you to be the bad person. It’s all on them.
Cryptographer_Alone − So, this is really “AITA for countering lies with truth?’. NEVER . Your sister tried to s**ew up your relationship with your kids. Did a pretty good job of it, it sounds like. That’s parental alienation, and you can take your ex to court over it for more custody time.
And really, did your sister think that the rest of the family would go along with that lie? She stole her bed and made it. Now she gets to lie in it. Ex too. Good riddance.. NTA
Ok-Cut5877 − How do you even call her your kids “ stepmom “ I would never
Berty_Qwerty − NTA – this is parental alienation and you need to let your lawyer know.
Antique_Ad8907 − NTA but those kids needed therapy yesterday
Did the mother do the right thing by telling her children the truth about the divorce, or should she have protected them from the harsh reality of their father’s actions? Is her ex-husband justified in his anger, or is he deflecting blame for his affair? Share your thoughts below!
