AITA for throwing them out of a house that we own. Son and future In-Laws decide to exclude his family from wedding. They thought son owned the house not us ?

A Reddit user shares a story about a conflict with their son and his future in-laws over a wedding and a house. The user and their spouse own a house in Pennsylvania, where their son has been living.

After his engagement, the son’s fiancée and her family exclude the user’s family from the wedding, claiming they are “not their kind of people.” The situation escalates when the fiancée’s family moves into the house, assuming it belongs to the son.

When the user arrives, they are told to leave “their house,” prompting the user to give them 30 days to vacate. The son calls, surprised to learn he doesn’t own the house, and the user informs him that they are selling it since they are no longer welcome in his life. The post concludes by inviting everyone to watch the story below.

‘ AITA for throwing them out of a house that we own. Son and future In-Laws decide to exclude his family from wedding. They thought son owned the house not us.’

My wife and I bought a four bedroom house in PA that my son lives in. Our son went to College in PA and wanted to stay in the area. So we bought the house as a second home, we live in NJ and commute into Manhattan for work.

We figured that he would have a place to live and we could visit every so often and spend some quality time together. We pay the taxes and services / maintenance on the house, our son pays for his groceries and the house utilities.

All was going well for a few years, our son meets a girl and they get serious. We met her and she seems nice enough. The announce their engagement and she moves into the house with our son.

Now for the problem: The wedding !!! We hold a little get to know you BBQ at the PA house, my son and daughter are there, as are our sons fiancé and her parents, and sisters. We all seem to be getting along well, my wife, daughter and the fiancé go into the house along with her mother an sisters and my son.

A few minutes later my wife and daughter come out and are really upset. The come over and tell me we’re leaving and driving back to NJ. I try to find out what happened. Once we get back to NJ and they calmed down they tell me that our son and his fiancé along with her family don’t want us at the wedding.

According to what I was told “We’re not their kind of people”. I was livid, I called my son and asked him WTH this was about. He tells me that her family feel that we are not good enough and will embarrass them at a family wedding and that we are all uninvited from the wedding.

I let a week go by to calm myself down and drive back to the PA house, the new future in-laws are in the house along with the fiancé. It appears that they all moved into the house They ask me why I’m there, I tell them that since we aren’t invited to the wedding, I was coming over to talk to my son. They tell me to leave their house.

I lost it, and told them that they had 30 days to get out. Tell my son I’m selling the house and he could find somewhere else to live with all of you. I go to a realtor in town and list the house for sale.

They call my son at work and tell him what I said. Apparently they thought that he owned the house. He calls me and asks why I’m selling his house, I tell him I paid for it along with the taxes on it and it is mine.

He was living there rent free, but since he doesn’t want us in his new life, he has to get out. I tell him the same as I told his future in-laws they have 30 days to get out then I’ll get a lawyer and get them evicted.Am I the AH for taking a hard stance on this. He is my son but thein-laws seem to take over and we no longer count.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Poppycorn144 −  NTA.
And I want an update on this because it sounds nuts. What kind of people do they think you are? How was your son ok with excluding his whole family?Do you think your son’s been brainwashed by his fiancée? How did he think the house was “his” when he didn’t pay the taxes on it?. So many questions.

happy_meow −  NTA….you don’t need a lawyer in 30 days, you need one NOW. I am not familiar with PA tenant laws etc but you need to follow everything by the book so that can’t contest anything. I would also go back and video tape, with time stamp, the entire property, inside and out, so they can be held accountable for any damage done

pepperpat64 −  NTA. They all moved into your house?? That’s so bizarre. Tell them they’re not your kind of people, aka, squatters. 🤣

shooter0213 −  NTA. I actually find it hilarious he is soo e**itled to the house he didn’t even expect you to take it back after his actions. I believe this is exactly the reality check he needed.

pnutbuttercups56 −  NTA. But your son must not be very smart. What did he think would happen if he let his in laws try to kick you out of a house you own? Why would you let people whose openly say you aren’t good enough live rent free in your house?

[Reddit User] −  NTA. Excluding his family from the wedding for ridiculous reasons is a pretty big FU to you and your family. He is experiencing the natural consequences of his actions.

One_Hawk8396 −  NTA- Rock on man. He was wrong and there is no amount of excuses or words to convince otherwise. It overall seems t**ic and there is no reason why he should allow anyone to exclude his family.

I could understand if maybe you haven’t been supportive or there were issues but based off what I read it baffles me why he would even do this. Don’t let in keep going forward if this is the life he wants they can find another house together not use you for an easy life.

SatelliteBeach123 −  NTA. What is wrong with your son?????

HistoricalDelay8260 −  Not our kind of people? What, not mooches?

me0mio −  NTA! Once everyone calms down, I would tell son that you are very concerned about him marrying into such a family, that you feel that they are isolating him from your family and that you are worried about what would happen if things between him and his fiancee go bad.

Let him know that you still love him and will have his back. If he goes through with this marriage. I think he’ll need your support. Personally, I’d tell him to run.

How would you handle a situation where family and in-laws clash over significant life events? Should parents continue to support their adult children when excluded from their lives? Feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.