Yesterday, my(33m) wife’s (34f) best friend (female) contacted me and told me that her husband and my wife were having an affair and my 3yo daughter is actually his daughter.
A Reddit user shared their distress after discovering that their wife has been secretly having an affair with her best friend’s husband for years, and that their 3-year-old daughter is not biologically his. The user is struggling with feelings of betrayal and confusion, unsure of what to do next.
After confronting his wife, she broke down and admitted the truth, but the emotional damage has left him questioning everything about his marriage and future. To dive deeper into the situation and the user’s emotional turmoil, read the full post below…
‘ Yesterday, my(33m) wife’s (34f) best friend (female) contacted me and told me that her husband and my wife were having an affair and my 3yo daughter is actually his daughter.’
Wife and I have been together since high school. Married for 10 years. I’m really drunk, so pardon me for this gibberish. My wife’s best friend Megan and I work for the same company( different departments ).
So yesterday, she wanted to meet me after work and told me that she had to tell me something. So I met her and she immediately broke down and started crying. I tried to console her and asked if something was wrong and she told me that my wife and her husband were having an affair.
According to her, this affair has been going on for years and she also told me that her husband was my daughter’s biological father. She confronted her husband and he didn’t deny anything.
And when I confronted my wife, she tried to deny everything but when I told her that Megan told me about it, she broke down and started crying. I really don’t know what to do. I mean, everything was a lie right?
My little girl Taylor is not mine and my wife blatantly faked everything for years. What do I live for now? I just don’t know what to do. Just here for some advice. I’m sorry if this felt like a rant.
Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:
Whateves1968 − Sober up, reach out to family and close friends for support, get a lawyer asap and follow their advice to the letter. Sorry you are going though all this. I can’t imagine how messed up your world is right now.
shipcapitan − You talk to a divorce lawyer. And you ask yourself if it’s healthy for you to have your daughter in your life right now. Some people like to keep at least that little bit of stability. Others need space away from all the deception.
You’re a 33 year old man with a stable job. This isn’t the end of your life. You’ll go on to have bigger and better adventures. You just have to find a way through this storm.
longshot − You’re 33. You could completely restart your life, education, career, etc. at this point if need be. Lawyer up, decide if you want to continue to be a part of your daughter’s life, d**p that lying wife and get some therapy. Oh and don’t drink too much! Take the high road on this, you’re young.
Bowba − Rough spot there pal, I’d say if you want check & see if the girl is yours, because you’re the only father shes ever known and a 3 years is alot of parent time to just walk away from.
You have to leave your wife clearly, get a place for yourself to stay or kick her ass out either way.. Sorry this happend OP, good luck! Edit: fixed the 10 years of parenting mistake.. Edit 2: Grammer
[Reddit User] − Ruined her best friends life, her husbands life, and potentially her daughters. This woman is as bad as it gets. Get rid of her, the cheating will not stop. A month into therapy and she’ll be laying out why it’s your fault and she’ll be hiding her phone from you.
moltenrock − #1 —— you MUST vow to not drink again through this whole process. Drinking will only f**k things up even worse. Drinking is NOT a coping mechanism — forget what you see on movies and TV – drinking will only give her the upper hand in this and fog your mind and inhibit good actions – So cut that s**t out NOW.
cfrules3 − Not really relevant or helpful, but it should really be a criminal act of some kind to steal someone’s life in this way. Your wife is human garbage, sorry man.
[Reddit User] − Let it sink in man. Take a deep breaths, and concentrate on your breaths for awhile. Once you feel like you’ve rested your mind (to at least some degree), start remembering what is concrete in your life, and what isn’t. Taylor, your little girl? Still your little girl.
Maybe not biologically, but buddy you can literally make trillions of those. Get over your ego and remember that she still needs an active and FAMILIAR father figure. She will come to know of her parents folly. You on the other hand, must get divorced.
Get yourself out and away from the state and maybe go on a trip. Take a friend, or family if you have any to take with you. Remember. You are a strong man. A strong individual, and you will get past this. Your life is not a lie, and you still have a job, a daughter and a full life to enjoy. Your purpose? Create one my friend. You are your ultimate goal.
novalpha86 − You start dating your wife’s best friend and let your wife and her new fam do their thing.
vodka_philosophy − Your wife made sure you were legally on the hook for being Taylor’s father, so use that to your advantage and sue for full custody and get child support from your (hopefully) soon-to-be ex. Or, if you don’t think you can be the father Taylor needs now that you know the truth,
demand a paternity test, divorce the lying, cheating individual and never see either again. ETA: What you actually should do realistically because I don’t have actual legal knowledge is contact a divorce attorney immediately, meet with them,
tell them exactly what would be your ideal outcome and let them help you through it. Personally I would want to stick it to the stbx as hard as humanly possible, but most people probably aren’t as vindictive as I am.
How would you handle a situation where trust is broken on such a deep level? Is it possible to forgive such a betrayal, or is moving on the only option? Share your thoughts below and join the conversation.