WIBTA if I remove a bridesmaid from my wedding party?

One person from Reddit is seeking advice on whether they would be in the wrong for removing a bridesmaid from their wedding party due to her repeated boundary-crossing and inappropriate behavior. Since being asked to join, the bridesmaid has made mean comments about other friends, shown interest in the bride’s fiancé, been rude to others, and caused unnecessary drama.

While the wedding isn’t until 2026, the Redditor is already stressed and uncertain about how to handle the situation. Should they remove her now, or wait until closer to the big day? Read the original story below…

‘ WIBTA if I remove a bridesmaid from my wedding party?’

I need advice on removing a bridesmaid who’s caused stress and repeatedly crossed boundaries. I asked her because I valued our friendship, but her behavior since has made me regret it. The wedding isn’t until August 2026, but I’m already losing sleep over her actions.. Here are some examples:

1. At my engagement party, she made mean comments about another friend, mocked my Maid of Honor (my sister), and claimed she’d “take over” her role.
2. At a bridesmaids’ brunch, she was rude to others and later told my fiancé she thought she had feelings for him, which was completely inappropriate. Adding more context here It was: I thought I had feelings for you and then realised I didn’t and it was just a good friendship, which is still so fucked and inappropriate – I thought it sounded like an intrusive thought so I forgave her…

3. At a party I hosted, she argued about arrival times, guilt-tripped me, disrupted the evening, and refused to contribute to event costs while expecting special treatment.
4. She invited herself to my family’s Christmas despite having other options, putting me in an awkward position.
5. She argued with her sister for not being chosen as a bridesmaid, making her feel guilty.

Her entitled and m**ipulative behavior has made it clear she’s not a good fit for my bridal party. I don’t want unnecessary drama and I also can’t keep prioritizing her feelings over my own peace. Am I the arse hole for not wanting her in my bridal party anymore? Should I address it directly now or wait until closer to the wedding? Any advice would be appreciated!

Check out how the community responded:

painfullysarcastik −  Forget bridesmaid, I’d reconsider having her as a close friend and keep some distance! She sounds like a walking red flag, avoid at all costs. You should address it sooner than later.

ManicVersusMoment −  NTA. She told your fiancé she thought she had feelings for him?! The rest is just the cherry on top. Kick her out of the wedding party and your life while you’re at it!

flirtybrando −  NTA. if she’s causing that much stress now, imagine how bad it’ll get closer to the wedding, cut her out asap, be direct but calm about it. no need to wait, the longer you drag it out, the messier it’ll get.

Gemini_Speaks75 −  Remove as a bridesmaid? Ma’am more like remove her from your life period. Why would you want to remain friends with someone like this, is the real question. YTA if you remain friends with this person. NTA.

24601Kai −  Number 2 is all you needed to say. Kick her out.

Jabberbrill −  This is such an obvious one that you have to be karma farming. Why are you even friends with this awful person? YTA for being s**tty to yourself by allowing this a**hole to remain in your friends group at all. Like I would actually get angry with a friend if they came to me handwringing about this situation. Stand up for yourself for f**k’s sake.

motherofcatsx2 −  Are you sure you are friends with this person? This is not behavior indicative of friendship. Get rid of her. NTA.

ProfessorYaffle1 −  Address it now. If the wedding isn’t until 2026 then presumably she won’t have yet ncurred much in the way of costs for anything like dresses you may be expecting the bridesmaids to pay for. Let her know that given her comments about your fiance, and her rudeness at the bruinch, you feel she is not a good fit, so is no longer part of the bridal party. You also need to consider, and discuss with your fiance, whether you want her at the wedding.

Taleof2poes −  YWNBTA, kick her out of your wedding party and life, she sounds like an awful person.

MarketCompetitive896 −  August 2026?? This whole thing sounds crazy. You’re going to put up with this for the next 2 years? If my wedding was going to take 2 years to plan I would back out myself. An awful lot can happen in 2 years I don’t know why you’d want to deal with this person.