UPDATE on refusing to subsidize my wife and kids ?

After a reflective update following his earlier post about refusing to financially subsidize his wife and kids, a man has decided to pursue divorce. He acknowledges no longer loving his wife, only caring for his children, but feeling they’ve become financially dependent on him.

He plans to offer his wife the house and his truck for a fast divorce, suggesting that keeping the house will be up to her and the kids. He has enough financial stability to retire comfortably but will pull the plug on his retirement plans due to this decision. read the original story below…

‘ UPDATE on refusing to subsidize my wife and kids ?’

I woke up and read so many more comments than I expected. Many of them made me think. I really do not love my wife anymore. I love my kids but they are leeches. I will be contacting a lawyer and initiating divorce. I also will be pulling the plug on my retirement.

I have enough money to last me the rest of my life here. I also have a defined benefit pension but it won’t kick on for five years. Part of the reason I was working so hard away from home was to provide for my family. But now I see they do not give half a s**t about me.

I will be offering my wife the house in North America and my truck in return for a fast divorce. I think that’s fair. I will keep my home down here. The only other option would be to liquidate and split everything. She has spent 30 years getting the house how she wants it so I doubt she will go for that.

If she wants to keep the house I guess that’s going to up to her and the kids now. Thanks for helping me turn a drunken rant into a life decision. I was probably headed that way but an outside perspective crystalized my thoughts.

See what others had to share with OP:

VinylHighway −  Speak to a lawyer before making offers

SerenaCrazy −  Be good OP I wish you the best

FutureCarrot107 −  All could’ve been avoided if they just got him a sandwich, this is hangry on another level. But in all seriousness, good luck mate, hope it all works out for you

Tls-user −  Your challenge is your wife is likely entitled to 50% of your pension plus 50% of the other assets and possibly alimony.

BrattySisX −  It seems like you’ve been prioritizing work and your family’s needs, but now it might be time to prioritize your own well-being. It’s okay to put yourself first after years of sacrificing for others, but before making drastic decisions, make sure you’re in the right mental and emotional space.

Life changes can be overwhelming, and it’s important to avoid making decisions while in an emotional state like a hangover. Give yourself some time to clear your mind and consult with professionals about your options.

Corfiz74 −  That was the solution I though would work best – give her the house & truck in exchange for her giving up any demands of alimony or a share in your retirement fund. And then enjoy your retirement – damn, I’m envious! 😉

lilmissspetite −  You’ve done more than your share, and if letting go now gives you some peace, then it sounds like it’s time to put yourself first.

repthe732 −  Don’t offer anything until you speak with a lawyer

No-Mechanic-3048 −  I want to know how they react to the divorce

azmodai2 −  Family law attorney, not your attorney, consult an attorney. NTA for wanting to get divorced in what you believe is a loveless marriage. But YBTA if you don’t consult a family law attorney about your risks in a dissolution.

In my state you have ENORMOUS risk here: significant maintenance spousal support, possible significant child support depending on the age of the children (and in most states that can go as late as 21),

50% of the increase in value of your retirement assets over the course of the marriage, half the value of the deposit accounts, stocks, bonds, crypto, etc,; half the debt; half the proceeds of sale of the house.

After a drunken rant and reflection, the man has made a life-altering decision to end his marriage and sever financial ties. Do you think his approach is fair considering the circumstances, or should he have explored different solutions? What do you think? share your thoughts below!