UPDATE on finding my wife unattractive after her plastic surgery.?

A Redditor recently shared a difficult experience after his wife’s plastic surgery left her looking dramatically different. Pressured into the procedure by her mother and sister, his wife underwent several changes, which made her appearance feel unsettling to him.

After a heartfelt conversation, they uncovered the influence her family had on her decision and discussed ways to rebuild their relationship. Together, they decided to seek counseling and establish new boundaries with her family. Here’s the full story of their path toward healing.

‘ UPDATE on finding my wife unattractive after her plastic surgery.?’

My wife came home yesterday and we finally had a long talk. She told me that the reason she had the surgery was because her mom and sister talked her into it. They convinced her that she was starting to look old and that I would find someone else to be with if she did not do something. That was why her mom gave her the money for the operations.

Her mom and sister look like Bruce Campbell in Escape From LA. They are the very last people on the planet that should be telling anyone to get plastic surgery. I used some of the comments I read on my post as talking points. I told her that I loved her and that she was the person that I wanted to spend my life with.

I told her that the surgery would take a while longer to settle down and that as I got more used to her new face I would learn to appreciate it. She asked me if I wanted her to see if she could get it reversed. I almost screamed at her. The last thing in the world I want is for her to f**k up her face more than it already is.

I asked her if she could please just leave it and let me get used to it. We talked for about three hours and we decided that her mom and sister would not be a part of any decisions in our life going forward. She is going to leave her face alone and give me a chance to get used to it.

We are going to look for a marriage counselor and maybe individual counselors for each of us. I am going to make an effort to show her every day how I still find her desirable and she is going to make an effort to believe me when I tell her I love her the way she is.

We are going to talk to her mom and sister and tell them that we are taking a break from them. We are going to block them and get our s**t together before we allow them back into our lives. Thank you to everyone who tried to help me. I would like to add that I did not think there were that many guys out there with a weird blue squid lady fetish. It isn’t for me but you do you.. ​. ​. ​

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

McDamsel −  [Bruce Campbell in Escape From LA](https://images.app.goo.gl/b7Lmz1gb23s6vgqG9)

Dondi-419 −  I would like to add that I did not think there were that many guys out there with a weird blue squid lady fetish. Remember you did post this story to Reddit.

Dark_Mode_Nose_Wind −  Many tough elements here… her self-esteem, body dysmorphia, being influenced by her mom and sister, you losing attraction for now… Which leads us to the fifth element… damn that was funny. Glad you’re making the effort and continuing to love your wife.

DeviousWhippet −  I am not confident in my appearance at all. But you know who tell me I’m beautiful, even though I look like a yam? My mum and sisters. F**k your wife’s family for doing that to her.

EDIT: your replies have made this root veg so sodding happy and I’m so sorry that some of you don’t have the family support you should have but please believe me when I say you are beautiful and the only u**y thing is your “loved ones” comments. Thank you everyone for making me smile 🙂

Podunk212 −  Her mom and sister will at least *look* shocked when you break it to them

19LaMaDaS91 −  I would like to add that I did not think there were that many guys out there with a weird blue squid lady fetish. It isn’t for me but you do you.
Ahahahah we were waiting your Update man! Her mom and sister look like Bruce Campbell in Escape From LA. And you didnt let us down ahahahaha

With a bit of time and healing hopefully her face will settle, but if it doesnt I would not exclude a reparatory surgery, just be a part of it and find the best surgeon you can afford! I am so sorry she was dragged in to something so stupid by her own family. However hope the best for you guys!

throwaway77914 −  You guys never discussed her mom and sister’s procedures in the past? I find it surprising that it never came up. My partner’s sister messed with her lips, they look like two hotdogs. We never made any comments to her or anybody else, and would never. But amongst ourselves, between just the two of us, we roasted the s**t out of them lol.

LightningSharks −  So… This is how your last post starts: My wife had plastic surgery recently. We had discussed it and I was against it. It was not my decision and ultimately I had no say. You guys discussed it. You told her you were against it.

And she went ahead and trusted her mother and sister instead of the words that came out of your mouth – and is now upset that you don’t like her new face? That sounds like something to talk about in therapy. Best of luck OP

Humble-Success6818 −  Am i the only one who looked up Bruce Campbell in Escape from LA 😩😩

stoney2723 −  Lip fillers come out pretty easy or if it’s just injections they’ll wear off 4-6 months I think! So hey maybe time will help. Good luck! NTA, but maybe throw in a hey beautiful every now and then

What are your thoughts on this couple’s approach to healing after the impact of family pressures? Do you think setting boundaries with her family will help them strengthen their relationship? Share your opinions below!