Update- Neighbor (40F) keep showing up unannounced to my (24M) house?

A 24-year-old man provided an update on his previous post about his neighbor, Dana (40F), who had been showing up uninvited and making him uncomfortable. After receiving a text from Dana expressing interest in spending time together while her family was away, he politely declined.

His girlfriend confronted Dana when she showed up at their door, which led to Dana’s absence for the rest of the weekend. The neighbor has since issued an HOA violation and been taking pictures of the man’s girlfriend’s car, though he’s learned from another neighbor that Dana and her husband are in an open relationship. Despite the tension, he plans to continue dealing with them as neighbors.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/AHIrr

‘ Update- Neighbor (40F) keep showing up unannounced to my (24M) house?’

Wow wasn’t expecting the original post to blow up the way it did. I would like to thank everyone for their advice. Turns out that the people who said she was into me were right. Dana texted me last Thursday letting me know that her family were going out of town for the weekend.

She said that she would be lonely and wanted to know if I’d keep her company. Said something like “she’s grateful to have such a young and strong man in her life” referring to me. I’m 90 percent sure that means she’s into me. I politely declined by telling her that I would be with my girlfriend.

Friday night I’m chilling with my girlfriend at home and Dana knocks on the door. I’m so thankful for my girlfriend, because she let Dana have it. We didn’t hear anything from Dana the entire weekend. I guess now Dana is mad because she issued an HOA violation for my trash cans being in the wrong place.

Also the other night she was taking pictures of my girlfriend’s car parked on the street for whatever reason. Yesterday I had a conversation with one of my neighbors who let me know that Dana and her husband are apparently in an open relationship, because her husband is bi.

Anyways not really my problem, and I’ll just deal with them as my neighbors. Ever since my girlfriend had that talk with her she hasn’t been on my property.. Thanks again for the help

Check out how the community responded:

Bleacherblonde −  I’d go to the HOA and threaten them with a s**ual harassment suit if she keeps it up with the fines and pictures.

Contribution4afriend −  You might have to lawyer up because she will make your life miserable. Save those texts. Have someone testimony your side. Make sure your cameras also record audio and make a diary of things she is over reacting as a hoa.

Things will escalate at some point and you might have to order a protective distance from her and another pointed hoa to supervise your house. Remember to check those HOA rules. Item by item.

AdorableEmphasis5546 −  Honestly be careful. This is not the behavior of a mentally stable person.

ParfaitAdditional469 −  Neighbor sounds like a c**ep.

Fred-zone −  Sleep with her husband to assert dominance

Interesting_Wing_461 −  Do what you can to protect yourself. Never be alone with her. She could make up false accusations against you.

I_AM_ME-7 −  A creeper and part of the HOA😂….

Disastrous-Panda5530 −  Oh yeah I’d be going to the HOA about her. She is retaliating against you for turning her down. She’s abusing her position to spite you. I would be looking into this ASAP.

Edit: you can also let them know you have footage of her snooping around your house and looking into your windows and it looked like she was looking for an open one too.

Dizzy_Signature_2145 −  If you don’t have cameras, get them. This lady sounds crazy. She might be worried, since you rejected her, that you will tell her husband. That’s probably why she is building a case against you with your HOA. Leverage. Keep your text messages.Keep your doors locked.

Necessary_Tap343 −  Document any future interactions with her and create a detailed narrative with times and dates if possible of everything up until now. It worries me that she is taking pictures of your gf’s car very stalkerish. Updateme