Update- My husband tried to close our accounts and kick myself and the kids out of our house.

A betrayed wife updates her story about her husband’s shocking actions: attempting to erase her and their kids by draining accounts and planning to kick them out. With help from her in-laws, friends, and legal support, she is regaining control of her life while navigating divorce proceedings. Her resilience and careful planning are now shaping a hopeful future for herself and her children. Read her empowering journey below.

‘ Update- My husband tried to close our accounts and kick myself and the kids out of our house.’

First, I want to say that I logged out of this account that evening, and didn’t come back until now, and I was BLOWN AWAY by all of the people offering food, gift certificates, or just good will, and I started crying.. again. I will respond to each of you individually.

So, to recap: My STBX is a cheating ass, and he panicked and tried to erase his family. The update: This all happened on a Sunday, so there wasn’t a lot I could do right then. I put the kids to bed, and called my mom and cried. Then, I called my mother in law, who was horrified.

My inlaws came over that night with $200 in cash and a check for much more. My father in law is didn’t say much, but he did fix my bathroom door (which is how he shows affection), and muttered that he would “fix this”.

I opened a new checking account at a new bank (THANKS FOR THIS ADVICE) with the check my in laws gave me. I opened a new credit card in my name. My mother deployed a niece to help with childcare for the next week, I called in a lot of childminding favors, and with the cash my inlaws gave me, I was able to pay the babysitter while I worked this out.

I met with two divorce attorneys- both of them told me about what you had said, that he was legally screwed. I chose one, and we set the process in motion to get an emergency hearing, but by Tuesday, my old checking account had most of the money back, and my husband was asking to “talk”.

On the advice of my lawyer, I took half of the checking account money and put it in my new bank, and kept records of everything. I pulled our credit reports- He has over $40,000 in credit card debt. I also found out, that he received a raise last year, and funneled this money out of our shared accounts. I would have figured this out when I did our taxes, and this led to him panicking and trying to “erase” us.

Keep in mind, this a**hole gave me gonorrhea. I am an accountant by trade, and I’m afraid of CC debt the way some girls are afraid of spiders, so I was horrified about this, but my lawyer thinks it’s likely that he’ll have to have this debt on his own, as my name isn’t on it, and it seems that most of it was spent on his side piece.

We have started mediation, which he agreed to when he realized that he would need to pay for BOTH of our divorce attnys. My goal- which my lawyer thinks is reasonable, is to ask for alimony until I either re-marry (not likely) or my 2 year old is in school full time, and to have a reasonable amount of child support until she’s 18, and then we’ll split college costs for all of them. When all the kids are in school, I can concentrate on getting back to work.

I also plan to sell the house and buy a smaller house in a less elite section of town. The kids can share rooms, and I can live mortgage free. So, I’m heartbroken, and diseased, but there’s also an incredible weight that his lifted from me. Our marriage has been bad for so long, and I didn’t even realize how unhappy I was, and how.. absent by husband was. It took my 5 year old almost a week to realize that Daddy was gone.

See what others had to share with OP:

Cypress_z −  I remember reading the original. I’m glad you came through okay and I’m happy that your in-laws helped you. All too often in this situation people tend to stick by family even when they’ve done something reprehensible. The credit card debt on top of everything else is pretty crazy. A person couldn’t purposefully set themselves up to utterly ruin their own lives better than he did.

my-stereo-heart −  I called my mother in law, who was horrified.. God f**king bless. I’m glad it’s working out for you. Sounds like you’ve gone through a lot, here’s to 2017 being a much better year for you!

DiTrastevere −  Holy hell I remember your last post. I literally breathed a sigh of relief reading this update. *Christ* what a dipshit. Soon the feeling of freedom will outweigh the heartbreak. You and your kids will be okay. It sounds like you’re being very smart about all this.

Take a little of the gift money and buy yourself a nice bottle of wine and a good book. Would that you could get a framed picture of the new a**hole his mother will tear him, on top of everything else that’s about to come crashing down on his head. Ah well.

[Reddit User] −  i remember this also and wanted to say. WELL DONE. Its amazing that your family on both sides came to help you. Good luck – you are amazibg and he did not deserve you. edit – i love how your mum “deployed” a neice. military style. i loves a proper plan

needpolarseltzer −  Hey you’re in OH – is it Columbus? I know of a lot of job openings here so if you want to get back into the accounting world, feel free to PM me.

artfulwench −  So glad to hear back from you, OP. I’m so sad you had to go through this yet it’s clear you are all better off without him. It took my 5 year old almost a week to realize that Daddy was gone.. This is so telling! :/ And once you have worked through your grief and set up in your new home and are back on track, you will have a great life. You got this! Also so happy the in-laws are on your team and are there for you and your kids!

sukinsyn −  The TL;DR of your relationship: “It took my 5 year old almost a week to realize that Daddy was gone.”. Good riddance to that j**kass.

hc600 −  I also plan to sell the house and buy a smaller house in a less elite section of town. The kids can share rooms, and I can live mortgage free. This set-up and a loving mother and your kids will be fine. It sounds like you have figured out how maintain a good relationship with their grandparents, which is good.

[Reddit User] −  I remember reading your original post and it was totally heartwernching. I am so glad that things are working out for you for the better now and it was really great of your in-laws to spot you some cash. You’re an amazing person and an amazing mother.

Your soon-to-be ex-douchebag of a husband doesn’t realize the amazing woman that he just threw away. I hope he’s happy with his STD infested side-piece. You stay strong, OP, and weather the storm. There will be better days. Just keep in mind that you are awesome and that you deserve way better.. Edit: spelling

Formergr −  My father in law is didn’t say much, but he did fix my bathroom door (which is how he shows affection), and muttered that he would “fix this”. Aww, they sound like decent people. I remember your first post, so like others I’m so glad to read you are getting through this and landing on your feet.

You’ve got this, and your kids are so lucky to have you. And I don’t know a ton about accountancy, but it is just starting to be tax season, so I wonder if you get some part-time work to start pretty easily and bring in some income even before your kids all start school.

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