Update: My husband (32M) is convinced I (26F) am pregnant. I’m not, but he won’t believe me. What do I do?
A Reddit user (26F) shared an emotional update about her husband (32M), who became convinced she was pregnant despite multiple confirmations otherwise. After a heated confrontation that escalated into unsafe behavior, she sought safety at her mom’s house while his family monitors his wellbeing. The situation remains unresolved as they work to understand the cause of his behavior. Read the full story below.
‘ Update: My husband (32M) is convinced I (26F) am pregnant. I’m not, but he won’t believe me. What do I do?’
I wish I could give clear answers but I can’t. Things escalated when I tried to speak to him, keeping some of y’all’s advice in mind. I sat him down and explained to him that I’d love to have kids with him in the future but that I’m not pregnant right now, and that his insistence worries & scares me.
I told him we could go to the doctor together if that would put his mind at ease, or I could take another test in front of him. (I was just hoping to snap him out of it somehow.) He got very agitated, said many hurtful things & accused me of being a l**r many times. That I’m trying to keep our baby away from him, and so on.
Nothing made sense & I wasn’t feeling safe anymore. I knew my husband would never harm me in any way, but that wasn’t my husband. Things got worse, he did hurt me but nothing permanent or even emergency care-worthy. I also know that if he was in his right mind, he never would’ve done anything like this.
I called mine & his parents and I’m now staying with my mom. He did seem to calm down a bit when his parents arrived. I haven’t seen/spoken to him since then. His mother – she’s an angel – is keeping me posted about everything. We all agree something is very off about him, and we don’t know what it is.
But he hasn’t agreed to getting himself checked out in any way. I don’t know how they’ll go about it, but they say – and I painfully have to agree – that it’s best to keep my distance for a bit, as most of it is aimed at me.
I’m safe, so is he. I miss him so much & just want an answer as to why he’s being like this. I keep trying to figure out if there were signs before, or what I did wrong. Thank you all for the replies, they were a great help. It’s so kind you cared to ask if I’m safe.
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
ChickenWingFat − Sounds like he has an undiagnosed mental illness or major trust issues. He should seek out a psychiatrist or therapist, or both.
As others have mentioned, probably best to see a doctor and rule out other causes also.
xxserenityxx1 − OP I am so so so happy to hear you are safe. Your post was ALARMING. I hope he gets the help he needs and please stay as safe as you can with all of this. Please keep us posted we are rooting for you. I definitely think he has had a psychotic break. I hope he finds his way back sooner than later ❤️
Tinywrenn − Thank you for letting us know you’re safe. I really hope he agrees to get the help he needs, but it is absolutely in your best interests to protect yourself right now. Good luck.
Aussiealterego − I am so sorry that you are going through this. You’re making sensible decisions. He obviously needs help, hopefully his parents will eventually convince him to get an assessment.
BamitzSam101 − OP, it’s nothing that you did wrong. If it turns out to be a mental health issue, there’s nothing you could’ve done differently. If it’s drugs, it’s his own fault and there’s STILL nothing you could’ve done differently.. None of this is your fault.
Bubbly_booom − Thanks OP on updating us. Just please, please under no circumstances go back unless he gets medical/psychiatric help. Whatever is going on can come back at any moment unless he seeks help, even if he will seem better at a moment. And you don’t know what this person, who’s not your husband, is capable of
Konstantine-1986 − My grandmother gets like this when she’s off her meds (she is schizophrenic). I am so happy that you are safe and I hope that he will get assessed – my Grandma also refuses but every time, it escalates and she gets put on a 72 hour hold (we get the police to come and get her and take her to the hospital). She is then in their care from anywhere from 3 months to 1 year (that was the longest). I’m wishing you all the best!
Yoyochickenwing − He should first get his brain scanned, and only after to see a therapist. Might be a tumor – happened to a family friend who was acting strange.
LucentLilac − So relieved to hear that you’re safe, OP — I’m so sorry this is happening, it must be so scary to see the man you love become unrecognizable like that. Be kind and gentle to yourself — not a single bit of this was your fault or because of anything you did. Rooting for you guys ❤️
Siestatime46 − Wow you are handling this perfectly. Unfortunate possibilities: bipolar, tumor. He HAS to be evaluated. I would make evaluation and treatment a condition of you returning home.
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