UPDATE: My [F27] flatmate [F27] has told my boyfriend [M31] she’s in love with him.

A Reddit user shared their intense experience with a flatmate who confessed her love for the user’s boyfriend and began behaving inappropriately toward him. The situation escalated when the user caught the flatmate making unwanted physical contact with their boyfriend, leading to a confrontation.

Matters took a bizarre turn when the user discovered personal belongings of theirs and their boyfriend’s in the flatmate’s room. The flatmate’s mother was eventually called to help remove her. For more on this dramatic ordeal and its resolution, read the full story below.

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‘ UPDATE: My [F27] flatmate [F27] has told my boyfriend [M31] she’s in love with him.’

A while ago, my flatmate told my boyfriend she was in love with him. He told me a few hours later, which I appreciated, but it made things awkward in the house. She started acting inappropriately—touching him unnecessarily and making him uncomfortable.

My boyfriend isn’t on the lease, so he didn’t feel like he could confront her directly, worried it might cause issues for me since she pays the larger share of rent. A few days ago, things reached a boiling point.

I walked back into the kitchen after brushing my teeth and caught her running her hand along my boyfriend’s lower back where his shirt had ridden up. My boyfriend yelped, backed away, and yelled at her to stop. When they both noticed me standing there, he turned to me and said, “You see?! This is what I was talking about!”

She looked horrified, realizing he had told me everything. She ran to her room and slammed the door. My boyfriend and I went out for a walk to calm down. He kept apologizing for not being more assertive sooner, but I understood how difficult the situation had been for him.

When we got back, we decided to talk to her. She ignored our attempts to knock on her door, so later, I went in and confronted her. She started crying, apologizing profusely, and saying how much she regretted everything. Just as I started feeling bad for her, she said, “It’s just so unfair that the guy I’m in love with has such a great girlfriend.”

That was it for me. I told her she needed to grow up and apologize to both of us. As I was leaving her room, I noticed one of my shirts hanging on her clothes rack. Curious, I looked closer and found more of my stuff: jeans, a vinyl record, and even a charm bracelet from my childhood.

My boyfriend’s work shirt was there, too, along with an old sheet of my antidepressants. Her crying turned into a full-blown tantrum, loud enough for the whole house to hear. I couldn’t take it anymore, so I called her mom.

Her mom came over, clearly annoyed, and packed her up. The moment her mom arrived, my flatmate snapped out of her meltdown and got quiet. She’s gone now, at least temporarily. I texted her to let her know she should contact me before coming back.

My boyfriend and I plan to stick it out until the lease ends in a few months and then look for a new place. This whole situation has been exhausting, but I hope she gets the help she clearly needs. As frustrating as her behavior has been, it’s also a bit sad to see someone spiral like this. For now, though, I’m just relieved to have a bit of peace.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Lurkeyturkey113 −  That’s a whole lot of yikes. I personally think you should go back and get your s**t. You know she stole it. She knows. Unless you’re pressing charges it doesn’t matter. Since some of those items are sentimental you run the risk of her coming in the middle of the night and taking it all/ quietly moving out and never seeing your things again.

KitMitchell −  I would just go ahead and take your stuff back, especially your medication and bracelet. She already stole from you so if you give her the chance surely she will try and lie to cover it up. Maybe it’s going to far but if it were me I would look through her things to retrieve anything else of yours that may be in there.

DeathfireD −  Sounds like this girl wanted to be you. She started with your stuff and the next thing was your b/f. Feels like a Life Time movie.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 −  Hi! I don’t know if this’ll go to the top or just get lost in the bottom – but I’m going to just go in and take my stuff. I think recording me doing it might be weird, and legally iffy. I’m also not really concerned that she could be violent or aggressive if she came back,

I think the whole situation has been pretty humiliating for her. It kind of seems like it’s about eliciting attention or sympathy. How much she felt was genuine and how much was manfactured and magnified to feed that need, IDK. I still hope she’s okay.

I’ve definitely let my health issues push people away before (albeit, never so dramatically) so I don’t think I’ll be calling her crazy. My boyfriend pointed out that I wore my jeans last week and that we’d all been listening to the binyl in the living space a couple of weeks ago,

so I’m kind of interested to see if this was maybe an episode or an ongoing but usually managed thing? I also only switched my medication at the end of April but I have zero clue if the foil pack I found was my discarded last lot or taken before I changed. Anyway! Thanks again for all the help and advice 🙂

rainyreminder −  Get in there, take photos/video, but take all your stuff back NOW. You can text her mum and mention that you’ve had to go through all her stuff and found X dollar(pound?) amount of your possessions, which you have reclaimed.

savtastik −  girl you better look through her entire room and tell her mom about it, she’s definitely hiding more of your stuff

Egrizzzzz −  Stroke of genius to call her mom. Best of luck finding a new roommate to you and your boyfriend.

spacefrogattack −  Ten points to Gryffindor for calling her mom. Funny story: Three weeks ago I kicked out a mentally ill person for a drunken knife fight. I’m going to tell you what I told my 11 year old when she felt guilty for not wanting to even see this person anymore, and it applies to you and BF:

You get to feel safe in your own home. That’s important, and that is your right. Personally, I’ve been feeling guilty and mad about all of it, and reeeally mad this three ring circus dropped in my kitchen. So how are you feeling? I’m sure BF is going through a lot. Are you doing things for yourself?

PS: go through her stuff, take back what’s yours, take pics of anything threatening for documentation, then take the high road and don’t post her headless Barbies and unwashed vibrators on Reddit. Or whatever you want, but that’s my vote.

Rhamona_Q −  Let her mom know what you’ve already seen just on the surface, and that you’re going to get whatever else is yours in the room. Have your BF video as you do it, so there’s no question that you retrieved anything other than what was yours.

But you definitely need to get all your stuff out of her room. Because if her mom decides to come and pack up flatmate’s stuff, she won’t know whether an item might be yours or not.

And that’s some creepy identity-stealing stalker BS there. Take your clothes, take your man, take your life… ever see the movie “Single White Female”? Chica has issues. Protect your BF and yourself.

manatrabanter −  Wow wtf giiiirl. Good job on you for quick thinking and calling her mom. She’s craaaayzy