Update : My boyfriend proposed during his sister’s wedding. Still need some advice

A Reddit user shares the emotional aftermath of breaking up with her boyfriend after he proposed during his sister’s wedding. While she made the tough decision to end things, the fallout has left her feeling isolated and overwhelmed. Read her heartfelt update below.

‘ Update : My boyfriend proposed during his sister’s wedding. Still need some advice’

Long story short, I broke up with him. It was messy—so messy. He kept pushing me to come back, insisting that he loved me and that putting his sister in her place was just a “nice bonus” to our relationship. His lack of self-awareness was staggering, and we kept fighting over it until I finally decided enough was enough and broke things off.

He didn’t take it well at all. In his mind, he hadn’t done anything wrong, so the breakup felt to him like I was “taking his sister’s side.” It didn’t seem to matter how much I tried to explain my perspective or the hurt I felt. To him, this wasn’t about resolving issues—it was about winning.

What made it worse was losing some of my friends. They told me I was just looking for an easy way out, that I wasn’t committed enough. It’s been crushing. Even though I know deep down I did the right thing, I still love him. And that love, coupled with the judgment from others, has left me feeling completely devastated.

Right now, it feels like everyone hates me. I can’t shake the thought that I’m the villain in their eyes. I know it’s weak to let myself feel this affected, but I can’t help it. This whole situation has made me question everything—about love, loyalty, and even my own self-worth.

Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? How did you find the strength to move forward when it felt like the world was against you? I could really use some perspective or advice right now.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

envoystorm −  “showing his sister who’s boss was just a nice bonus ” What the actual f**k? Is he a child? So basically he proposed at his sisters wedding without telling her?

[Reddit User] −  i remember your post. i had such a visceral reaction to it that i didn’t notice i wrote the icelandic “oj” instead of “ew.” you will find an adult to be with and better friends. you did the right thing.

sectorfour −  I have lost some friends who said that I was just looking for an easy out and so on. Nice of them to identify themselves as assholes for you to remove from your personal life.

BreadditUser −  Anyone who proposes to a s/o at someone else’s wedding doesn’t understand relationships at all. You did the right thing OP.

runrunrunawayyyyyyyy −  You have lost friends??? It wasn’t even their relationship so how were they so invested. You did what was best for you and I respect that. All the best

tercer78 −  Lol you did the right thing. Did you want your proposal to be a memory of him getting revenge on his sister? Doesn’t sound like the tenets of a successful marriage. He’s immature and you are best to move on.

plentyofizzinthezee −  Easy out. So weird. A good reason for breaking up with anyone is ‘I no longer want to be in a relationship’ that seems pretty easy. He handed the fact that he was a vicious, scene stealing narcissus to you as a bonus

8-bit_brain −  I have lost ~~some friends~~ **his enablers**. FTFY

sherlock—-75 −  So if you ever “did him wrong” so to speak he will wait and wait for the right time and get back at you. That’s my take away. He’s a child.

[Reddit User] −  Oh no no, after reading your first post, I know you love him but his motivations were S**T as were his reactions. His timing displayed nothing hit his own selfish motivation to hurt and embarrass and you were the tool to do it.

I know you live him but this is really messed up. If you have “friends” ditching you, good – cause they ain’t real friends. Stay strong. I think you’ve made the right call. He needlessly hurt you and his own sister.. I wouldn’t get back with him.

Breakups are never easy, especially when love is still present. This story reminds us of the strength it takes to prioritize respect and boundaries over convenience. Have you ever faced a similar situation? How did you cope with the emotional challenges? Share your thoughts and support below.