UPDATE: My (25F) husband (26M) broke our dogs leg, I’m worried for the child I’m currently carrying.

The original poster (25F) shared a troubling story about her husband (26M), who broke their dog’s leg in a fit of anger, raising concerns about her unborn child’s safety. After confronting him and discovering he had been cheating with an old flame, the OP made the difficult decision to leave him and is now filing for divorce. She has rehomed her pets for their safety and is considering her options regarding her pregnancy while leaning on supportive friends and loved ones.

‘ UPDATE: My (25F) husband (26M) broke our dogs leg, I’m worried for the child I’m currently carrying.’

Hello all. For starter’s, thank you for the out pouring support and advice! I feel much less alone in this. Rufus is doing well and recovering at a friend house with her husband, along with my other dogs and senior reptiles. I decided to re-home the rest of them for the own well being. I also left some of my essentials and important possessions with her for when I left.

Initially, when I sat my husband down it went smoothly. He agreed to seek anger management and therapy. But when I made it clear the dogs weren’t coming back for a while, he got angry. He felt like was being immature, and he was being treated like an abuser. Reminding him that what he was doing was abusive, seemed to “hurt his pride” so he went to take a walk to cool off.

Unfortunately for him he left his phone behind, and it started to go off constantly after about 10 minutes or so. Now I have never once felt the need to go through his phone, but last night I decided to. I have no idea why, and I kind of regret it. But I did, and I found some wild s**t I was not expecting.

Turns out, he was linking up with his old high school flame, a crazy bugger we’ll call Sarah. Sarah was crazy I’ll-kill-myself-if-you-leave-me daddy issues kind of crazy. She even stalked me for a bit early in our relationship, but it seemed like he wanted nothing to do with her. Turned out, a few months before quarantine they were chummy again and were hooking up, sexting, trading nudes.

You know, the whole package. I couldn’t help but think maybe his sudden spike in agression was stemming from this double life/lacking s** with his ex stress. When he returned, he knew something was up. And I let him know I knew. And he LOST IT. Crying, please don’t leave me, I love you, I don’t know why I did it, the whole works.

I told him I was leaving, and he tried to stop me, but with some help from my friend and her husband I was able to leave without things getting physical. I still haven’t told him I’m pregnant, but I’m roughly 8 weeks and still haven’t decided what to do about that. He still doesn’t know.

Thankfully, I have no STD’s even though he was h*ving s** with both of us at the same time, unknowingly. I’m heart broken, and filling for divorce and most likely going to avoid bringing a kid into all of this mess. But Rufus is being his always supportive self, so I’m going to press on and hope for the best.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Exact_Lab −  He got mad and had to cool off after you told him you were keeping the pets safe from him?? Have you realised yet that your little dog saved your life?. And I do mean that.

[Reddit User] −  I know this might sound like horrible advice, but do you really want to have a child that will be attached to that guy forever? To have him in your life every single day? To share the kid with him on special occasions? I mean of course you could also not tell him if you keep it.

But I think you deserve a clean break. Unless you of course want the child too, then I’d say maybe only tell him if he got the help he needed? He sounds like a horrible person! He’s so young and already wasting his life.

tryingtocare123- −  I’m extremely glad you and the dog are okay now. I know this is a horrible situation to be in but at least you have a good head so you did the right thing, you are now out of harmsway. No matter how much he cries and pleads, please continue to heal, file for divorce and live a life you deserve.

PinkMoon1988 −  Mad respect for you for not looking at this situation through rose colored glasses. You are one strong woman and I’m so proud of you that you were able to see him for who he is…an abuser. This marriage might have been a mistake, but it’s not a life sentence; you do not have to ever tell him of the pregnancy. You are blessed to have the support of an amazing friend.. God bless you.

freedcreativity −  Man, shitbags gunna shitbag… Wish you the best of luck OP. Consider getting an a**rtion; it is hard but you don’t want to have this man in your life. He would very likely get some form of custody and clearly cannot be trusted with animal or human life. If he would hurt a dog, he would hurt a child.

NothappyJane −  Pregnancy is a gift, and a personal choice but I’m going to lay it out for you. For the next 20 years your life will be at the control of a man who broke your dogs legs, the kind of man who behaves the way he does out of spite, out of h**red, out of irrational anger. You’ve only begun to see what he is capable of.

And you won’t get to choose his partners and who he exposes your kid too. Unless this is truly your only chance to get pregnant in your life I would consider very carefully moving forward with this. If that’s what you want be prepared for a lot of turmoil surrounding the push/pull with your baby.

Don’t go into this with stars in your eyes, it’s going to be hard sharing with this man all its going to be a lot of tough times. Best of luck you really deserve better than all this

OneTwoWee000 −  OP, I’m glad you’re safe. But you need to file a police report for animal cruelty. You need to establish of record of his violent behavior. He could get jail time for how he hurt Rufus. And should you choose to have the baby, this incident on record can ensure your get sole custody and he is awarded supervised visitation.

ThatOneGuyYearn −  I gonna get s**t for this but it’s not too late for an a**rtion. No one needs to know about it

[Reddit User] −  Get an a**rtion, he doesn’t deserve to reproduce.

Do you think the OP made the right decision to leave after discovering her husband’s actions? How would you handle such a situation, especially when balancing personal safety, trust, and a potential future with a child? Share your thoughts below and join the discussion!