UPDATE: My [24] boyfriend [25] of 3 and 1/2 years hasnt proposed and I’m starting to worry. I just want that promise.
A 24-year-old woman shares an update on her previous post about her boyfriend, now husband, who had not proposed after 3.5 years of dating. After receiving advice, she learned that her boyfriend had been planning the proposal all along and was waiting for the right time.
He eventually proposed after she graduated college, taking her on a special hike to the place of their first memorable date. The proposal was heartfelt, and they were married about a year later. They recently celebrated their one-year anniversary, and she couldn’t be happier.
For those who want to read the previous part:https://aita.pics/bOGeR
‘ UPDATE: My [24] boyfriend [25] of 3 and 1/2 years hasnt proposed and I’m starting to worry. I just want that promise.’
I wanted to give an update on this post I wrote about 2 years ago. I got some great advice, I got a lot of tough love advice and some terrible advice. I know he was already committed by all of his actions and that I really needed to focus on college first before having to plan a wedding.
Well, it turned out my boyfriend at the time had been planning on proposing to me for a long time. He wanted to wait until I graduated college. A little after I graduated college, he took me on a hike. I knew this was a special hike because it was the same place we went for one of our earlier dates.
The first time we went on that date was magical. I always teased him that he never kissed me on the date. There was this perfect moment he was holding me in front of a beautiful picturesque lake as we were just enjoying each other’s company in an embrace.
I thought he was going to kiss me but he didn’t. I later kissed him first but always teased him that he didn’t kiss me in that moment we had. He confessed he wasn’t sure if I wanted to be kissed. He said he wanted to kiss me more than anything.
Well he took me back on the hike 4 years later, and when we got to that lake, he told me this is when he knew he was first in love with me. Then he got on one knee and proposed to me. I just kissed him and even forgot to say yes! So he asked, “Are you going to marry me or not?” And I said of course.
We got married about a year later and we just celebrated our one year anniversary in October. I’ve never been happier and I’m so excited to continue our life together!. Thank you for reading 😁
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
thr0aty0gurt − Hey this is cool! A long term update. Congratulations, I hope yall have a long happy life together!
[Reddit User] − When you said “my boyfriend at the time” my heart dropped. Great update and super glad you got it together and relaxed into your love and relationship!
Sneevius − Congratulations! What a lovely proposal.
WalkingTaco42 − A positive “it all worked out great” update?!?! We need more of this on this sub! Take my upvote! Also – remember this! If something bothers you and you don’t like what he is doing, don’t assume he’s working against you.
DO try to communicate your wants/needs to him. Marriage isn’t always the fairy tale people think it should be, it’s work. But it’s one of the most rewarding jobs out there when you do it right! Congrats!
nostalgeek81 − He wasn’t sure if I wanted to be kissed This is so wonderful. People respecting other people’s consent and boundaries makes me so happy. He’s definitely a keeper. Congratulations, I wish you a lifetime of happiness!
zerotohero14 − Congrats OP, I am so happy for you. I am in the position you were in now, and I am struggling hard. He hasn’t given me a definite timeline.
MidYouthCrisis96 − Congratulations! I’m in basically the same position you were in but I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years now! I think it’s all about not comparing yourself to anyone else’s timelines and doing what feels right for your relationship. I do understand where you were coming from before though!
dabesdiabetic − What in the actual f**k. Idk if it’s growing up in a city in New England or what but 3 1/2 years at 24 and wanting a ring like that. YIKES.
pupusasandchill − See? He stuck to the original plan you both agreed on. Congrats!
wouldbeartist − How heartwarming!! Glad you didn’t listen to the cynics years ago.
After the long wait, the user’s patience paid off with a beautiful proposal, symbolizing the importance of timing and mutual commitment. How do you feel about waiting for the right moment in relationships? Has waiting for a proposal worked out in your own experience? Share your thoughts below!