UPDATE Me [34 M] with my wife [30 F], found somewhat damning messages on her phone. Don’t want to believe

A Reddit user provided an update to a story that had left him questioning his marriage after discovering suspicious messages on his wife’s phone. After confronting her directly and discussing his concerns, he learned that the messages were entirely innocent: she had joined a gym and hired a personal trainer named Jeff.

Her secrecy was rooted in her desire to show progress before mentioning her new fitness routine. The couple cleared up the misunderstanding, and the user expressed relief and gratitude for the advice to approach the situation calmly.

‘ UPDATE Me [34 M] with my wife [30 F], found somewhat damning messages on her phone. Don’t want to believe’

Well, it looks like many of you were right.. She has a personal trainer. Yes, thankfully, it actually WAS a personal trainer. I’m so relieved and you guys are way smarter than me. She came home from work last night and I told her I needed to ask her something, could we sit down and talk. She looked worried but agreed right away and asked me what was wrong.

I told her I had read her message and asked her to please explain it to me. Comprehension washed over her face and then a look of pity. She said she had joined the gym down the street because her work gym is terrible, and she signed up for a personal trainer because they were having a deal and she wanted to be held accountable.

She showed me her sign up sheets and keycard and even pulled up the gym website and showed me her little calendar spots for her training sessions with her personal trainer, whose name is of course Jeff.

She apologized profusely and said she didn’t mean to scare me. I asked her why she hadn’t said anything and she said it was because she wanted to make some progress first, which honestly, is very much like her.

When she’s trying to do a project she does not like to draw attention to it until it’s done. I think that “ta-da” moment motivates her. So everything is ok because I asked her what was up. I would’ve updated last night but we went out with friends.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

FlightyTwilighty −  Ha, that’s hysterical. Good news. Thanks for the update!

CFCA −  its really refreshing to see somthing end up not be cheating in this sub.

dastja9289 −  Win-win! She’s not cheating on you amd she’s getting in better shape! Glad it worked out!

RememberKoomValley −  I’m so glad you didn’t just attack her about it! Communication is marvelous.

[Reddit User] −  As a trainer I am now going to make all my texts to client double entendres (sp?). This is too funny.

whenifeellikeit −  What a relief! I can totally understand where she’s coming from too. I like to make progress on new habit changes before telling people about them, for a couple of reasons. a) What if I fail? Then I don’t have to give disappointing updates to people asking about my progress.

And b) And this is a much stupider reason… then there are few people holding me accountable? I guess? Anyway, I wish your wife luck with her new fitness goals and I wish you both luck together.

CohibasAndScotch −  Boom!!! Called it. I was the third person to post in your initial thread and first to suggest a trainer (yes, I want a cookie! Chocolate chip, please). Awesome news. Didn’t think I’d be right the way stuff turns out on this sub but I’m glad I was.

[Reddit User] −  🙂

[Reddit User] −  Just glad I was right in my comment on your original……now she will wonder why your going through her phone but that will be another post;)

TheTripleH −  SHE hit the gym, but did she lawyer up?