Update: Me [32 M] with my “roomate” [31 M], how do I ask him to be my boyfriend when we pretty much are already a couple?

A Reddit user followed through on a heartfelt, albeit clumsy, plan to ask their “roommate” and FWB, Alan, to officially become their boyfriend. Despite a series of amusing missteps during a planned dinner, the two finally defined their relationship, agreeing on the term “partner.” Read the charming update below.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/QeepW

‘ Update: Me [32 M] with my “roomate” [31 M], how do I ask him to be my boyfriend when we pretty much are already a couple?’

A lot of people were saying to cook him a meal and then ask him so that’s what I did. It was a bit of a disaster, I screwed up the chicken dish I wanted to make, ended up making mac’n’cheese with this expensive gluten free saffron pasta because Alan is King of the Kitchen and even our olive oil is fancy.

He was sympathetic but I could tell he was amused when I told him I screwed up the dish and was happy with mac’n’cheese. Anyway, I was already a bit agitated from screwing up dinner but when we sat down, I was thinking about /u/tabithatortie ‘s comments about how Alan was my lobster.

Only I was so nervous I said “Alan, you’re a lobster” instead of saying that he was my lobster and that just confused him and asked me if I wanted him to make lobster. That just made me embarrassed so I told him not to worry about it and went to pour him some wine and ended up knocking his glass into the mac’n’cheese and ruining it.

So we ended up getting takeaway and watching Netflix and I was still a bit on edge because I’d screwed up the evening- we were cuddling so he could tell that I was a bit tense and not focused I guess.

Anyway, he asked me what the matter was and I just blurted out “Are you my boyfriend?”, he looked uncertain and said “Yes, if you want me to be” and I just very emphatically said I wanted him to be and he looked very relieved and happy.

I apologized for evading the topic before and Alan said it was OK because I was the best boyfriend he’d ever had with or without labels and that got us to the fun portion of the night.

Anyway, a bit later I guess something twigged because he asked me if that was what dinner was about and said yes and he pinched my cheeks and called me adorable. Then he asked me what the lobster thing was- he thought I’d tried to make him lobster but I explained the Friends quote and he said it was a good thing I was pretty.

Anyway, I asked him if we need to make an announcement or anything but we agreed that we wouldn’t say anything unless people brought it up or we need to introduce each other. Alan also said, he liked the term partner better than boyfriend and I agreed, it does sound more serious but I guess that’s what this is.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

pickfifteen −  Thanks for the suggestions people, I’ll be back if I need proposal ideas. Uh, no offense chief, but based on how this went, my proposal idea is you tell *him* to do the proposal, so you don’t accidentally fall into an open fountain when getting down on bended knee, or choke yourself on the ring or something.

apricity_ −  THIS IS MY FAVORITE UPDATE.

Rayne37 −  Anyway, a bit later I guess something twigged because he asked me if that was what dinner was about and said yes and he pinched my cheeks and called me adorable.

You two are ridiculously cute together and this entire story had me laughing in tears. I’ve tried to cook a nice meal before for an SO and it went about the same way.

Ethelfleda −  OMG, that almost sounded like a Friend’s episode. Congrats on a happy life!

riversilver −  This deserves to be a scene in an adorable romcom. Congrats OP!

dcolt −  Can I option the film rights? Cause this is screwball romcom gold. Seriously, glad it went well. Congratulations!

astrakhan42 −  “You’ve got to break out the l-word.”. “Lobster?. “The *other* l-word”. “… lobsters?”

GandalfTheGaaay −  Oh god, this is such an adorably hilarious update. So happy for you guys!

Nusi218 −  I was ready to give up on the internet today, until I read this, you sound like a great couple, lots of good times ahead!

RogueOfHeart33 −  You know, you’re story is extremely similar to how my SO and I started dating. We had a FWB relationship for a few months while she was too afraid of commitment and didn’t have romantic feelings for me.

Well, after 3 months of living together and 6 months of casual s**, she ended up developing them. At that point, I was head over heels in love with her, and I had been honest with her about that. She actually broke it off a few times because she didn’t want to hurt me!

We started dating because she was in the ER(I drove her) and a nurse asked us what my relation to her was and at the same time I answered “roommate” she said “girlfriend.” It threw me off super hard, and later that night I brought it up,

and she admitted that we were practically dating already, as we both had never been with anyone else during our FWB relationship, and so we started dating. A year and a half later, and we’re still together. Best of luck to you and Alan!

This heartwarming update shows that sometimes, imperfection makes moments even more meaningful. How would you handle turning a long-time connection into an official relationship? Share your thoughts below!