UPDATE: Me [29f] want to ask my professor [30sM] out, is it weird?

A Reddit user reflects on a post about wanting to ask her professor out but never doing so, as he went on sick leave due to stress. Despite initial nerves about her math exams, she passed and life took an unexpected turn. She eventually fell for a long-term friend, and now they’re in a loving relationship, preparing to move in together. The user is also set to become a teacher in January. Read the full update below…

‘ UPDATE: Me [29f] want to ask my professor [30sM] out, is it weird?’

I was looking through my old posts out of boredom and realised some people asked for an update on this. Life took some turns! I never got around to asking him out as he went on sick leave due to stress shortly after the math exams.

I didn’t want to pester him when he was already going through something. I didn’t, and don’t, know him well enough for that to feel appropriate. Unfortunately I have no idea how he is doing now, but I hope he’s okay.

The exams went terribly for me, speaking of. I did pass, but nerves got the best of me! Luckily the rest of my grades keep me at a good average. Anyway, it’s not all bad. In the summer after my post – and after some horrible Tinder dates – I fell in love with one of my long term friends and fortunately he with me as well (to be fair I always thought he was beyond amazing)!

So, I’m in a great relationship now, we’re moving in together and I will be a fully fledged teacher come January 🙂 Thanks for all your replies though, they were really helpful at the time!

Tl;dr – Didn’t ask him out in the end as he went on sick leave, but life moved on and I’m in a good place, hopefully he is too.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

DiscardUserAccount −  I remember your original post. Glad everything worked out so well. Good luck with the teaching gig!

cubedjjm −  congratz!! Love these great updates.

Bostonterrierpug −  As a male professor this makes me happy. Please students don’t ask your profs out. First off we can’t really go o it with you as it’s morally wrong and as we can get fired . My dad (and mom) was also a prof who left my mom and six year old me for a grad student. But those were the 70s so he kept his job.

They got back together eventually but it’s sucked for my mom and I. When I first got a chilli pepper on the rate my profs ( when that was still a thing) it kinda made me feel gross. Now I have a lot of ex students who I absolutely love (platonically) cause they are awesome and smart people.

And yeah I’ve had some super hot looking students, but since they are my students I don’t even think about looking at them in that way cause it’s damn creepy. Students please be inspired by your teachers if they are good but please don’t make s**t awkward. If you have a crush (and yeah I did too back on the day) keep it to yourself.

bamblerina −  This is so sweet! Thank you for updating. This cheered me right up at the end of a rubbish day.

Hoogidaba −  In hindsight, it wouldn’t have been weird to want to go out with your professor, but it wouldn’t have been ethical for him to do so. Glad things worked out when all was said and done!

hermeedontcare −  Life has its way of working out a lot of the times… This makes me happy. 🙂

[Reddit User] −  I’m in a similar situation as this. I (f/28) had a huge crush on my manager (m/29), he quit last week and asked me out immediately. I had a secret work crush on him for awhile and recently became single last month! I was so excited when he asked me out, but the next day he texted me with an excuse and then didn’t reschedule.

It was weird because he was the one to ask me out and even mentioned dinner and drinks, which to me is a date. Then the next day I said just take your time, I know you’re going through a lot and he replied nicely saying we’ll “hang out” soon.

He came in the other day to say goodbye to a few people and didn’t acknowledge me for the few seconds he saw me. Others were around and it was an awkward situation but I’m bummed to say the least. I’ve pretty much let it go, but I’m glad to read this and know there is probably someone else meant for me one day.

Panzermensch911 −  I’m glad it didn’t happen. Seriously though @all don’t harass people at their places of work if you are a costumer. Doesn’t matter if they are a waiter or professor.

Awesome_Leaf −  It was not the tea I ordered, but it was the tea I wanted in the end. Good s**t and good luck to ya both!

a_satanic_mechanic −  That Professor out there just living his life with no idea someone else got his girl.

Sometimes, life redirects us to unexpected joys when we least anticipate them. Have you experienced a similar twist in your journey? Share your story below!