UPDATE: Me [25F] with my BF [27M]’s mom … Asked her to teach some recipes and s**t hit the fan.

A Reddit user shared an update about a tense situation with her boyfriend’s mom, Carol, after asking her to teach her some recipes. Initially, Carol had a major outburst, accusing the user of trying to replace her. However, after some thoughtful communication, the user and Carol were able to resolve the issue.

The user reached out to Carol directly, and they met up for breakfast, where Carol apologized and they agreed to cook together. The situation was positively resolved, and the user felt much better about the relationship moving forward.

‘ UPDATE: Me [25F] with my BF [27M]’s mom … Asked her to teach some recipes and s**t hit the fan.’

Hello again! It’s me, the Monster in the Kitchen! (By the way, my username referred to me – I don’t think she’s a monster, I just felt like it was funny referring to myself as the monster – probably should’ve clarified that!) Thank you so much for all your responses. I logged out and came back to an inbox swarming with support, advice, clarification, etc …

I really appreciate the time you all took to respond to my issue. Means a lot, internet strangers <3 Anyway, I’m happy to say that this is a positive update! I definitely sympathized with her because I know it must be scary to have your only child (yes, Dan is an only child, as a lot of you guessed.

How astute of you, Reddit!) “pulled” away by another woman, even though we have COMPLETELY different relationships. But regardless, it doesn’t excuse what she did, so I let Dan initially reach out to her, to which I followed up later. Dan gave her a call and was very nice, yet firm with her and how she treated me.

Carol responded saying that she was really embarrassed and sorry and that she felt terrible and wanted to give each of us some time to cool off before reaching out. I initially told Dan that I wanted to send her an e-mail based off of what u/vanitypridelust drafted,

so he told her that I would reach out when I was ready because I really wanted to frame the conversation rather than have her feel like complete crap for her outburst. So I sent her a text later in the evening and we met for breakfast this morning.

She was so apologetic and cried and I said that although it did hurt me, that I understand where she’s coming from and am in no way trying to replace her. I respect her a lot because she raised my literal dream man, so even though we may not be best friends, she’s done a lot of things right.

We hung out for a bit, ended things wonderfully with a re-do invitation to cook dinner together this weekend – her recipes – and hugged goodbye. All is right in the world. Thanks again for offering insight and perspective. Y’all are the best.

See what others had to share with OP:

edhredhr −  Good job being the grown up in this situation. I can’t imagine I would be able to forgive her crazy so quickly.

Gentoon −  I respect her a lot because she raised my literal dream man, so even though we may not be best friends, she’s done a lot of things right. You’re a great partner. That’s the sweetest thing I’ve read on this sub.. Thanks for the post. 🙂

[Reddit User] −  I didn’t comment on the original post but I’m glad it has worked out. If you’re moving far away from both your families it’s good to be able to do so on happy terms. If you’re arriving in Australia shortly make sure you’re ready for summer.

khellick −  Wait you’re coming to Australia? Sweet, which city?

smpl-jax −  Awesome job and awesome outcome. Just keep in mind there could be some things (possibly subconscious on her part) that she will do that may still seem c**ngy towards Dan. Give it time and this will slowly fade

PM_me_your_PANDAPICS −  P.s. Dan is the best. Can’t wait to lock that s**t down.. That made me giggle so much.

DelicatelyTwisted −  Glad it worked out! Invest in a barrier bug repellent for your house and a fast acting bug spray that specifically says spiders, cause Huntsman spiders are faster than you know and some of them will run at you if you spray them. Harmless but scary as hell.

Dire87 −  I mean, he’s 27…some people just need to learn to let go 0o…not like he’s 17. People. Glad, it worked out. Hope it will in the future. Seems to be on a short fuse this one.

laissetomber −  Lovely resolution 🙂 Have fun in Australia.

shazbotabf −  Mark my words: If you and your boyfriend wind up together in the end, you and Carol will have a relationship to rival the one you have with your own mother. She sounds dedicated and loyal to the ones she loves, and if you ever do crack that nut, which it sounds like you are well on your way to doing, you will be grateful to have a person like that in your life.