UPDATE: me [14f] with school it starts tomorrow and I have no friends in my lunch
A 14-year-old shared their fears about starting high school and having no friends in their lunch period. In a delightful update, they found a group of kind, like-minded students who joined them at lunch, leading to new friendships and a brighter outlook on school. Read on for this heartwarming story of connection and support.
‘ UPDATE: me [14f] with school it starts tomorrow and I have no friends in my lunch’
First off- thank you SO much for all the nice comments and stories of being alone in lunch. It made me feel so much better!. This is a really happy update! I ate lunch outside today and I was sitting alone when four girls approached me.
They had that they had all moved from different states and countries, and asked if they could sit with me. I was prepared to eat alone or approach some people like you guys said- so this was a relief!
Of course I said yes! And we really hit it off. We walked around the school after we were done and chatted. We made a group chat and agreed to sit together again tomorrow!
They’re all really nice and I think we’re going to be good friends. I’m really glad I made some new friends- I’m not that scared of high school anymore! The only bad thing that happened is I lost my textbook! I looked everywhere for it but it’s gone. I don’t even know where I left it… I feel awful and hope my teacher isn’t mad. 🙁
But all in all it was a great day- thank you for all the nice wishes!!!
TLDR: lunch went great- four girls sat down with me and we are friends now. Sitting with them again tomorrow. I did however, lose a textbook the same day it was given to me and feel awful…
Edit: thanks for all the nice comments! I was told not to worry about the textbook and got a new one 🙂
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
lunchanxiety − I didn’t see anyone sitting alone yesterday- but if I do we will go up to them! We’re all interested in expanding the friend group, cause why not?
fuckitydoo − Hey this is so awesome! I’m happy for you, reading this update made my day.
Escargoe − Nice that you made friends. For the textbook, be prepared to reimburse the school. Your teacher can only help you so much by asking the class if they have your textbook or something.
briefaspossible − Yay you! Great update!
courtnbur − That’s great! Now you have the opportunity to “pay it forward” by inviting others who you notice are lonely to join your group. Make it a goal to help someone else feel as good as those four girls helped you feel.
nataleeyuhh − Good for you, OP! I remember being at a new school in a new town when I was around that age. You should invite the girls over or to the movies or something!
RedPeril − great job, great start! best of luck on your high school journey. Oh, to be 14 again…
TheotheTheo − Dude, textbooks come and go. Meeting new friends is a momentous occasion.
Vicous − I’m a guy in my twenties and for some reason your post makes me go “aww…” Good on you girl! It’s always nice to meet cool new people, and without effort, hopefully you guys grow and learn together! High school isn’t as bad as everyone makes it seem, really, I wish I had known that when I was there…
But I’m glad things worked out for you in the end and good on you for commiting to involve people who may be eating alone as well- as the loner type, I always felt glad when people invited me to hang out with them. 🙂
goldt33f − I missed your original post, but this is a good update 🙂 I always had lunch anxiety in high school. I was a new kid when I started 10th grade, and if it wasn’t for an extremely friendly girl who asked if I wanted to sit with her on the 2nd day of school, I probably wouldn’t have made the friend group I made. That was 10 years ago, and we’re still good friends.
It’s incredible how a moment of kindness and shared experiences can turn a daunting situation into something positive. Have you ever made unexpected friendships in a new environment? Share your story in the comments and spread the positivity!