[Update] I (M24) found out my daughter isn’t mine and I’m soon to wed my Fiance (25F)

A Redditor from a relationship subreddit shared an emotional update on discovering that their daughter is not biologically theirs and their impending wedding is now in jeopardy. After confirming the paternity test results, the Redditor confronted their fiancée, Sarah, who revealed that she had been with three different men around the time of conception.

Despite the betrayal, the Redditor decided to cancel the wedding, move out, and take time to process everything. They’ve come to terms with not being the father of the child and are in the midst of sorting out the legal and emotional aftermath. Read the original story below…

‘ [Update] I (M24) found out my daughter isn’t mine and I’m soon to wed my Fiance (25F)’

This OP: I (M24) found out my daughter isn’t mine and I’m soon to wed my Fiance (25F)

After getting the same result with the second paternity test, I talked to “Sarah”, and a lot emotions rolled out, how could and old friend betray me, I wasn’t sure if it was or wasn’t yours, I’m sorry, how could you not trust me, she was all over the place.

After she calmed down I got a few more answers out of her, turns out it wasn’t one guy she was sleeping with, rather a total of three, and they wore protection too, but someone got unlucky and knocked her up. At this point, I should’ve been furious, but somehow, that didn’t happen, I had grown numb to the whole situation.

So yeah, I decided I don’t want to go through with this marriage and put everything on hold, I plan to eventually cancel everything. I called my parents and explained what was going on, they were shocked; then her parents, same reaction, I was surprised with how understanding there were to the whole situation, like I said, they’re great people, their reaction only reinforce this.

Luckily, the wedding was within driving distance from all attendees, 8 hours being the longest drive, the amount of fallout was minimal, apart from my and her parents, no one else knows what’s really going on other than the wedding is delayed.

Regarding my “daughter”, I’ve come to terms that she’s not mine, and any feelings I have towards her we’re built on a lie, it’s not too late to start over, she’s still young (1yr), she won’t remember me. As painful as it is, I can’t see my life continuing with her.

So to wrap things up, I’ve moved out for the time being to have so space, my parents said I could stay with them until I can sort things out, waiting on the results of an STD test, should be coming in tomorrow, I’ve talked to a lawyer and she’s said it’s a pretty messy situation, but if we can find out who the father is, it could very much help my case.

I don’t know any of the possible fathers, but her “friend” instantly knew two of the names, as for the third she wasn’t sure, but knew someone who might. So this is where I am, still not sure where things will go and what will happen, but I can only hope for the best, life sometimes takes a d**p on you, but you don’t realize it till one person spills the beans.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

[Reddit User] −  You made all of the right decisions bro. You will look back on this and be so thankful that you didn’t stay with her. Don’t walk, but run away from her and never accept her back. Save yourself a lot of hurt in the future. Sorry something like that happened to you but it’s life. Good luck

laundryandblowjobs −  The fact that she let the words “How could you not trust me?” come out of her mouth, when she knew she had been cheating on you with three other men, at least confirms that you made the right decision. The situation sucks, but you don’t have to let uncertainty nag at you, or second guess yourself. This was a narrow escape, indeed. Forward is the way – may it be better than this recent past.

spazzitgoes −  The friend is a the real MVP. Sorry op, and while this will sound useless at the moment better to have found out now rather than 10 years from now. You’re young, and you absolutely can bounce back from this. Good luck!

[Reddit User] −  Wow what a mess. I’m sorry this happened to you. You have a good attitude about it even with all the pain and lies. You have awesome family support, I’m sure great things are in your future. Stay strong, mourn the loss, don’t let it turn you into someone bitter. ❤️

[Reddit User] −  Regarding my “daughter”, I’ve come to terms that she’s not mine, and any feelings I have towards her we’re built on a lie, it’s not too late to start over, she’s still young (1yr), she won’t remember me.

As painful as it is, I can’t see my life continuing with her. Don’t feel any guilt for this. In no part of this have you acted out of any malice or ill-will towards the daughter. Ultimately, it’s her mother’s responsibility to make sure the right things are done.

checkeredpirate2 −  Can we all take a moment to thank the friend. He gave up an important friendship to tell you the truth. That couldn’t of been easy but it was the right choice and they’re a good person for it.

darkangle14 −  This is the best possible outcome you dodged a nuke. Thank your friend they saved your life read enough cheating post you will realized that you made right choice and post this on survivinginfidelity.

dead_PROcrastinator −  She slept with three other guys then had the nerve to ask how you couldn’t trust her? JFC

Justmyoponionman −  Well done. The future mess you have avoided with this is HUGE. Good luck with your new start. Count your blessings you found out now and not in 1 years time.

oopsiedaizie −  You have handled this with more grace and dignity than most people could ever dream of. Best of luck to you man.

The Redditor’s journey through betrayal and heartbreak is painful, and the future remains uncertain. How would you handle a similar situation, where trust has been shattered and life has changed drastically? Should the Redditor pursue legal action or try to move on entirely from the relationship? Share your thoughts below and let’s discuss how to handle such profound emotional challenges.