Update, I (30F) cheated on my husband (27M), and now I suspect he’s seeing another woman

A 30-year-old woman (F) shares that after confessing to cheating on her husband (27M), their marriage has unraveled. Despite her efforts to apologize and work through the issues, her husband has decided to leave her. He admits to talking to another woman, though he claims nothing physical happened.

The wife feels devastated, and her husband is firm in his decision to end their marriage, citing emotional distance and betrayal. He plans to move out and start over with someone else. The woman is struggling to cope with the consequences of her actions and the end of her marriage.

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‘ Update, I (30F) cheated on my husband (27M), and now I suspect he’s seeing another woman ‘

He left me. I did like you guys said and begged him to talk to me. He didn’t want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over. He got softer with me, he helped me clean up and we talked. I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said he was talking with someone, but didn’t do anything with her.

I asked if she was the woman my friend saw him with,he thought on it a little but said no, it was another woman whom he met a month ago in his office. I asked him how could he and said I gave him permission, and he didn’t do anything besides unloading his problems and our situation with her.

But he played it like he was having a full affair so I could feel what he felt, especially because according to him I neglected him and made it obvious I was cheating on him. He said he was suffering and I was almost rubbing it in his face,

I told him I wasn’t doing it on purpose and he said this was even worse because I didn’t care at all. He said that everything I did after confessing meant nothing and just made him think I am selfish, self-centered and lack any sort of self-respect.

I asked him if we could work on myself and our marriage, but he said we can have counseling to sort ourselves out, but the marriage is over. He said he wishes no ill on me, and decided to cut his charade because he could no longer bear to the woman he once loved suffer like that.

But he said I am no longer that woman. I started sobbing again and he held me, but he kept saying no when I asked him we work this out. I asked him what he was going to do and he’s moving out, he already found a new place.

I asked him if he was going to live with that woman and he said he, but she was close enough. I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers,

and that woman made a much better impression on him. I told him he was a fool and he could not know this woman will probably use and d**p him, he got harsh and said she’s better than me for sure.

He said he won’t say to our families our marriage ended because I cheated, but because we grew apart and that he will leave the house to me as long as I make the divorce smooth.

But if I try to take him to the cleaners, drag it out, or cause any problem he will tell everyone what I did and “destroy” me and my reputation. This happened yesterday and he has already packed up almost everything. I can’t stop crying and I can’t believe this is happening. This is horrible and unfair.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

guy_n_cognito_tu −  I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. Probably had something to do with you f**king other guys. Just a guess. The fact that you’re playing victim now speaks volumes about your character.

Voleuse −  This is horrible and unfair. You got exactly what you deserve bestie. The fact that you still can’t see that points to a horrific lack of self reflection. Make the divorce smooth, let the man go and stop being a s**iopath if you can help it.

BeltalowdaOPA22 −  I can’t stop crying and I can’t believe this is happening. This is horrible and unfair. LOL. The woman who had an ongoing affair is going to cry about how horrible it is that your husband did the same thing to you and is now leaving you?. This has to be karma farming.

banesvoice −  Gotta love a happy ending 

Toniqx −  What in the rage bait is this horse s**t

jimmyb1982 −  I hate to be an a**hole, but you deserve what you have. I could ask you how you could choose an AP over your husband?

Silly-Impact5445 −  Dude … if OP’s husband is reading this please don’t just give up the house. Hire a lawyer and make sure your assets are split equitably. No matter how much “crying till she pukes” your m**ipulative ex wife tries.

wise_prophet −  Your first post had me but now you’re making this too obvious. For your next story, try not to make the main character too stupidly selfish and one track minded. Decent fictional rage bait otherwise.

Kaiser93 −  TL;dr He left me.. Top lad! I wish him all the best in life.. This is horrible and unfair. Unfair? How? So it’s ok for you to cheat, but not for him? It’s totally fair. As for you, I’ll advise you to do some serious self – reflection on why your marriage failed.

Both-Ad-9225 −  You fucked around (literally) and found out.#karma