[UPDATE] I (28M) Is about to propose to my gf (28f) of 7 years, but then I discovered something. Need advice.
A man prepared to propose to his girlfriend of seven years uncovered unexpected evidence of infidelity when he stumbled upon a Google Assistant recording involving her and another man. Confronting her with undeniable proof, she initially denied it but later confessed. He has now decided to end the relationship and move forward as a single man. Read the full story below.
‘ [UPDATE] I (28M) Is about to propose to my gf (28f) of 7 years, but then I discovered something. Need advice.’
I dont think there is a need for me to see her again next week. So here’s what happened.
-She texted me she got home and about to sleep at 11:44 PM (she’s closing deals in another city and has to rent a place)
-I tried to facetime her 11:51 PM just to say goodnight, she didn’t pick up. I tried messaging her but no response.
Remember that spare phone that’s with me where her google account is logged in? I browsed on her activity history quickly to find out what shes up to, and was surprised there’s a “google assistant” command recorded at 11:48 PM.
I played and listened. There’s her voice and a voice of another guy. They were goofing around at the google home device. So yeah. I confronted her and barraged her with a lot of messages, she only replied at around 1 AM. She kept on denying she’s cheating. Then I laid all the evidences, all the screencaps and even the audio clip recording from the google assistant.. She finally admitted.. I am single.
See what others had to share with OP:
Xhalo − Sucks that even with damning evidence out there, she would still deny it.. Better off for you bro.
Bedtimeshine − When she comes back from her little single girl fantasy vacation she’s going to realize the enormity of what she’s done. You’re going to have be strong enough to weather that storm.
[Reddit User] − Dude. I got married at 27. Divorced at 36. Trust me, this is a blessing. She showed her true colors before you got married. From now until 40 will be the beat time of your life. Stable and can do whatever you want. Go live your life.
dobtoronto − So sorry for what you’ve been through. This is the true start of a new phase of your life.. Wish you all the best.
PM_ME_ANYWHERE − Keep your head up man, you dodged a bullet. This hurts, I know. Use the pain as fuel to work on things you’ve always dreamed of, and put yourself first. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself, lean on your friends and family and you’ll make it through this stronger than ever. DEFINITELY go no contact. Forever. If you need someone to talk/vent to, shoot me a pm.
ElectraUnderTheSea − Odds are she will be back to you soon begging for forgiveness. Please do not be tempted to take her back, you will only be showing her she can treat you like crap and you will accept it.
She was not the woman you thought she was, how can someone go from being all lovey-dovey around Valentines and Googling “I have cheated” on Feb 15 is beyond me. I am so sorry OP. Having to hear the woman you wanted to marry cheating on you must be horribly cruel..
AliasCaffrey − I had such a similar situation to your original post. We were already married, though. After dating for over three years and at eight months in to the marriage, everything went wrong in one day. It was very much like my wife had died and she had been replaced with a doppleganger who was her polar opposite. I married her after having been her two children’s stepfather for four years.
The younger one had no real memory of anyone else other than me as her dad. I filed for divorce, but she later tried to come back home after our separation. I gave it the full six months, but she would never tell me what she had done while she was gone, and I couldn’t live the rest of my life with her with so many unknowns.
I mourned that relationship as if she had died. Stages of grief. The whole thing. It was so sudden and jarring. That was in 2014. Now I have no wife, no children, and the home I bought for us has been sold. I don’t understand how these things happen. I knew she had cheated on me, but I had no proof.
I had no smoking gun. Until last October. When I decided to look at her new man’s Facebook page. All he had visible to non-friends were his profile pics. As I scrolled down, I saw many pictures of him and her.
But the piece de resistance was a picture of him, of her, and of both of my children — all taking a selfie. The date the picture was posted? The same day she called me and asked to come home.. I’m sorry this happened to you, that it happens to anybody, really.
Because it fucks with your sense of self-worth, but it also ruins the way you see any other potential partners. It makes you wonder what’s so wrong with you that you didn’t see it coming. (Or maybe that’s just me.) Anyway, you’ve done the right thing. Hang tight, friend. You’ll get to the other side. EDIT: typos, edited for clarity and for other people’s reading comprehension failures.
FlameoHotboi − What a whore.
wowucanreallydance − That’s sad, im sorry for you.
sweetlydelightful − 7 years is a long time. I’m so sorry, this is truly a fucked up situation.
Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, and discovering betrayal can be deeply painful. How would you approach rebuilding trust in yourself after such a situation? Share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below.