[UPDATE] I [27M] think my fiancee [27F] might be cheating

In a heartbreaking update, the original poster (27M) confirmed his worst fears about his fiancée (27F) cheating on him. After noticing suspicious behavior and late-night texting, he accessed her phone and uncovered explicit messages, photos, and even a video confirming her infidelity.

Confronting her with the evidence, he ended their engagement and moved out, refusing to give her a second chance. For the full story and how the user handled the situation, read more below…

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/oFmUk

‘ [UPDATE] I [27M] think my fiancee [27F] might be cheating’

First off, I wanted to thank everybody who commented on my original post. Most of you guys wanted me to call the number Sandra was constantly texting and I honestly was about to. She came home an hour after I had posted the original post. I was almost asleep by then and I guess she thought I was asleep.

She took out her phone and unlocked it. I saw her password. Eventually she fell asleep and I unlocked her phone and searched the number on her phone. The number belonged to some guy named Jeff and the text messages were extremely s**ual.

Those were just 2 examples of the sexts between them, but there was a hell of a lot more. I screenshotted a ton of them and sent them to myself. At this point, I was done with her. I confirmed that she was cheating on me. So I decide to snoop some more and looked through her photos.

They were a couple of photos of her kissing and cuddling with some guy, who I assume is the same guy she’s been cheating on me with. Of course I also send those photos to myself. But what threw me over the edge was a video of her (I assume one of her friends were recording this) giving some guy head.

I almost lost it and woke her up to confront her, but I calmed down. Of course, I also sent the video to myself. At this point I went for a walk for nearly 2 hours. Mind you this is the middle of the night and the area I walked through isn’t the safest of areas. Still, I didn’t care. I was so angry.

Eventually I calmed down enough and went back to our place. I slept for maybe 3 hours and woke up. I printed off some of the sexts and photos and waited for her to get up. She finally got up at about 6AM. When she finished eating breakfast I slammed the text messages on the table.

She looked at me with horror. She started crying and shaking. I took the engagement ring from our dresser and walked out. I came back a couple of hours later and she wasn’t there. I called my landlord and told him we wouldn’t be renewing our lease.

I told her I was moving out and to never contact me again. I packed all my s**t and moved in with a friend. So yeah that’s it. She was cheating on me and I’m done with her. She’s been blowing up my phone begging for a 2nd chance, but she’s not getting one.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Jennzera −  Sell that engagement ring and take a vacation down south. You deserve it, man.

ed_lv −  Silver lining of this is that you figured this out now, and not after you’re married with couple kids with her. Now, you can just try to focus on getting over her and moving on. You never have to have any contact with her again.. Good Luck

truelovewaits112 −  A friend recorded the video? G**damn.

Meatros −  I’m sorry that this happened, but you are doing the right thing. No second chances for this b**lshit.

[Reddit User] −  I’m really sorry this happened to you. Do yourself a favor and delete all that evidence so you don’t torture yourself looking at it.
See this as a “blessing” that you saw her true colors before you got married.

the_Zambony −  I screenshotted a ton of them and sent them to myself.. Good Job! I printed off some of the sexts and photos. Good Job! I slammed the text messages on the table.. Good Job! I took the engagement ring from our dresser and walked out.. Great Job!

I told her I was moving out and to never contact me again. I packed all my s**t and moved in with a friend.. Good Job! She’s been blowing up my phone begging for a 2nd chance, but she’s not getting one.. Textbook way to deal with this.

Very sorry your ex-fiance put you through this, but you handled this as best as possible. Just remember that you will have a roller coaster ride of emotions ahead of you, so you will have to remain focused on healing yourself and moving on.. Best of luck to you.

zacht180 −  God f**king dammit, reading this angers *me*. I understand why there’s a number of reasons people cheat and things, but at the same time I don’t fully grasp the idea. I know people are different, but I’ve seriously never had an issue staying committed in a relationship. Not once.

Is it really that hard, Reddit? Are people today really that impulsive? Christ. OP man I’m sorry and angry for you. You deserve a whole lot better. While we can sit here and call her names, that really doesn’t do any good. The fact that she lied to you and cheated you in the first place gives all of us, and you especially,

a clear image of what kind of person she is. And also more importantly a clear image of what you don’t deserve. No one should ever have to put up with this s**t, not in a “committed” relationship.. /endrant

anon2929 −  Save that evidence if you feel you need to but put it in a folder somewhere you don’t have to look at it all the time. You don’t need to carry that weight in your pocket everyday. Sorry this happened to you. Some will point out how this is a good thing in the end. They’re right of course but that won’t help you in this moment. Take care of yourself.

andlife −  It shocks me how often we see cheaters on this sub getting caught and then begging for a second chance. All these people who want to have their cake and eat it too.

wat19909 −  Poop in her makeup bag and leave op.