UPDATE: Going to confess my (23F) feelings to my long time friend (28M)

A 23F med student shared her emotional journey of confessing her long-time feelings to her friend (28M) after two years of secretly crushing on him. Despite initial hesitation during their evening out, she mustered the courage and kissed him, leading to a heartfelt conversation where they realized they both cared deeply for one another. To her delight, he proposed they give a romantic relationship a shot, and they ended the night on a joyful and intimate note.

‘ UPDATE: Going to confess my (23F) feelings to my long time friend (28M)’

So, TLDR is quite easy: I did confessed my feelings eventually and it looked like my friend shared similar feelings! We agreed to pomote our friendship and try this couples thingy. 🙂 But I almost messed this up in every possible way. We had dinner and for few hours I was not able to force myself to start this topic at all.

We almost parted our ways but as we were talking in front of restaurant we figured out noone has better things to do on Friday evening this time. So we agreed to spend some more time together. We went to 2 other places to drink and dance a little and me being me – I still was not able to say anything. That was just heart breaking at this point.

I had a last chance, he told me earlier about some projects he was working on so I asked if I could see it. We went to his place, had one more glass of wine and were chilling for a bit. At one point we were teasing one another (in a playful way) and messing around. He was tickling me and to make him stop I pinned him down.

I have no idea what I was thinking at that time but I kissed him! I immidiately panicked and backed off and he was like – what was that? I was scared like hell, but I told him that we have this unique bond and for some time I was feeling like I would like something more and asked him if he could see us as a couple.

He told me that he really appreciates our friendships and trusts me a lot and then complimented me a little. But next thing he told me was really earth-shattering. Basically he didn’t thought I might be into him romantically. He reminded me about one conversation we had. It was after my last breakup.

I said something like there are no man I am really attracted to (which was straight up lie – I was attracted to him, just couldn’t admit that) and because of that he was never thinking we could be a couple nor anything like that. I told him it was stupid thing to say then and I am attracted to him.

So yeah he proposed for us to try this and we kissed. I felt so happy and relieved and I started crying a little. But he was really comforting about it. And then one thing led to another and hmm.. I was really great end of the day and all.

So long story short – we are meeting today again for a real date. It will be a little bit weird as we already have trust and intimacy (from our friendship) that is usually build during dating. But it is nice to try it. I cannot wait – I think I was never so happy!

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Jerok88 −  So you go to dinner, dancing, wine, tickling each other at his place alone, and he still didn’t have the idea that you might be into him because you said something about men in general right after a breakup? Ladies, we men need your help. If you are into us, let us know. Even private wine tickling at his place isn’t enough to get it through our heads.

JustPassingShhh −  Aaaaaaaahhhhhhh THIS IS SO CUTE! Honestly, my best advice is just get a kiss in. Sod being awkward just kiss him and hd hands and be cute and dorky and just go have fun. Enjoy every damn minute of the first romance stage of a relationship but NEVER forget hed your friend first and always treat him like that, you two against the world sort of thing. Enjoy x

moonlitcat13 −  This reminds me of me and my now husband a bit. I had a crush on him since middle school and he had no clue I existed lol. Then we were in the same club in high school and became friends but we both dated around and all. My senior prom after a breakup I asked him to be my date and he said yes.

We are on the dance floor getting really into it and really close and I KISSES HIM!! Clearly though it worked cuz we had our 10 year dating anniversary in April and one year wedding anniversary in June. I’ve always loved and appreciated that we were friends for a long while first before dating.

I already knew him but I got to know like ALLL of him. It’s hard to describe but because I already trusted him and could talk to him it just made our relationship so much more freeing and personal. I don’t know, but CONGRATS!!

MelJay0204 −  I’m so happy for you! That was so brave of you! And it paid off….

MCDexX −  This is so adorable. You’re both adorable idiots, in the best possible way.

wgrc1971 −  We can be pretty clueless – I know I was when I was younger (yeah like I’m not anymore now right haha). I am sure he appreciates you letting him know. I am pretty sure I was in similar situations back then and no one spoke up. There was one gal who was a great friend of mine, we hung out a lot in college.

We parted ways awhile when she got married but she reached back out after they split. We then would spent a lot of time together. She and I were both interested in paranormal, psychics, spirituality etc. I remember one day I had a dream where I was at my own wedding in the future but I could not tell who the person was.

I snuck a peak at the card and coudln’t recall the name after waking up but remembered it was someone who I already knew (i.e. it wasn’t someone who I had yet to meet). We were having dinner at my place later that day and I told her the dream and she believed it. She said a few times “It’s not me is it?” “You don’t think it is me?”

I took that at face value that she would never want anything like that (and that still may have been the right interpretation), but I decades later still wonder. Of course I could have just asked her at that moment, right? But like I said we can be clueless haha Great job and I wish for the best for you OP and your bf!

[Reddit User] −  Happy for you. Please don’t say anything stupid like that again, lol. He was being respectful after you said that, which is good, but it delayed everything and clearly stressed you both out. Mixed signals. Good luck to you both.

Optimal-Ad-9478 −  Is this the same crush who slept with your best friend a few weeks back? If so, how did things resolve with her?

moldy912 −  This is why you gotta be careful what you say around your crush. I could totally understand him taking it that way. After a breakup is a tricky time for men if they are into you, because they want to console you, but they might also be listening for when is the best time to swoop in and be your next. Glad it worked out though!

Touraxus −  I was getting anxiety reading the story. So glad it worked out for you.