Update: Girlfriend found out she can’t have kids and is pushing me away

A Reddit user shares an update on his emotional journey after his girlfriend (23F) learned she couldn’t have children and began pushing him away. Despite the heartbreak, he’s committed to giving her the time and support she needs, focusing on her healing while holding onto hope for their future. Read the heartfelt update below.

For those who want to read the previous part: Part : https://aita.pics/HBGxE

‘ Update: Girlfriend found out she can’t have kids and is pushing me away’

We are done. But not over. She needs this time and wants to be alone. I’m respecting that decision as hard as it is. I spoke to a therapist and with the advice so many of you guys gave I know that I can’t speak to her with the intentions of wanting us to be back together. But to be there for her, right now she can’t feel love.

Whether that be for herself or for others. She’s depressed. But I am going to be her rock. We have a deal where for this 1 year I can try. I can be there for her and ask as many questions and show my support. That’s what I’m going to do, if I want any future with this gentle caring woman,

I need to let go of my intentions and help her no matter the outcome. Whether she wants me at the end of this or not. I’m okay with that. It’s obviously going to be hard but she’s the love of my life, and that love means that I’m always praying and hoping for her happiness and wellbeing whether that is with me or not.

Some of you may say that it’s just going to hurt me in the long run if we don’t come back together, and I know it might. But I have to have hope. Like Keanu reeves said if you’re a lover you have to be a fighter because if you don’t fight for your love, what type of love do you have.

Some of you might ask what I’m doing to get through this on my own as well. So far this is my day. I wake up and go through my emotions for 30 minutes. I let myself experience it all. I get up brush and pray. I pray for her and for us. I then write a love letter and put it away ( my plan is to one day give them all to her).

I then just go through my day. That includes the worrying and fighting the what ifs in my head. I realize I can only live now in the present but that each decision affects the future. So I can’t regret my actions. I do move to another city next week for school (graduating this year).

And that’s going to be tough with the distance as well. But she’s the one for me. I’m giving up all forms of Intoxications as if I’m praying I need to follow my religion. We are seeing each other in person on Tuesday.

I’m nervous but happy. I know there’s something still there. I’ll update you guys as this goes. Thank you guys again for the countless support given to me on my previous post. I pray for all of you.

See what others had to share with OP:

scotswaehey −  Mate the heart wants what the heart wants and if being with this woman means not having children then I totally get you would sacrifice it for her.

MajorasKitten −  After cancer, I can’t have kids. I tried to leave my bf as well, lol. He didn’t let me. He married me 😭 and was there when cancer came back a second time, and held me and became my rock while I overcame that s**t again.

I hope after the dust settles, your gf can see what a gem she has in you ♥️🫂 thank you for loving her so selflessly 🥹 i will be praying for the both of you! ♥️

Present_Tip_6594 −  My wife never wanted kids. I didn’t care, I just wanted to be with her. I told her if ya ever want to adopt, just tell me. 20 years and no kids. Couldn’t be happier with her.

Lonely_Mongoose_283 −  “I want a family with *you* even if that means that our family is comprised only of us two.”

Vanilla_Princess −  You sound like a beautiful person and she is lucky to have found you. I hope to read a positive update on this one day.

Mistress_Lily1 −  I was diagnosed at 18 years old with a severe hormone imbalance. I had not enough estrogen in my blood and way too much testosterone. I was told by the dr that I would likely never be able to get pregnant and even if I did that I would likely miscarry.

Estrogen replacement wasn’t an option for me. I was admittedly careless..never used condoms. But you know what? A few years after that I gave birth to my first miracle. And 2 more after that. All early because of the imbalance but relatively healthy.

The dr isn’t necessarily wrong but at least in my case they weren’t 100 percent right either. I hope OP that whatever the case here you 2 can work through it together. You sound kike a great person who just wants to be with that someone

reinventingwednesday −  The fact that you want her to be happy above all else, even if it means not being with her, speaks volumes of your love for her and your character. I really hope you guys make it! I wish you both the best!

VelvettVortex −  It’s great that you’re respecting her decision and giving her space, but let’s be real, every rom-com ever has taught us that grand gestures, love letters, and moving to a different city for someone usually ends up working out in the end. Keep the faith, my friend, and may the odds be ever in your favor.

lhimalcolm24 −  Babies are not the be-all, end-all. You can always adopt or foster, but at the end of the day and at the end of YOUR days, it will be about you and her and your relationship. Love is hard to find, harder to fight for, but it sounds like you’re ready for that fight.

What I’M concerned about was that this was all it took for her to throw in the towel. Life is going to be full of ups and downs. Is she going to run again, the next time it gets hard? Just worried about your heart! ❤️ 💙 💜 💖

Far_Prior1058 −  Good luck. Please keep updating us.

Do you think his approach of giving her space while supporting her is the right way to navigate this difficult time? How would you handle a relationship tested by emotional struggles and uncertainty? Share your thoughts below!

For those who want to read the sequel: Part 3: https://aita.pics/GbJlv