Update AITHA for telling my sister Sam that since her dead beat boyfriend is back I shouldn’t have to cancel my life to help her with her kids anymore all the time?
A Reddit user shared an update about setting boundaries with their sister and her boyfriend, Tavion. After a difficult situation involving anger and discipline, the user made it clear that they would no longer help their sister with her kids if their behavior didn’t change.
The user also expressed their concerns about Tavion, unsure if they should give him another chance to rebuild their sibling relationship. Read the full story below to see how the situation unfolded.
For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/XWvyO
‘ Update AITHA for telling my sister Sam that since her dead beat boyfriend is back I shouldn’t have to cancel my life to help her with her kids anymore all the time?’
Hi everyone sorry it’s been five days a lot has happened. So me and Tavion talked 4 days ago and he apologized to me and told me he’s getting some help for his anger and temper. I told him I won’t press charges this time but if I find out he is hurting my nephews and his kids I’ll press charges.
And he said he understands. He’s gone until tomorrow. Sam told him he needs help right away. And he agreed thank god. I’m currently at Sam’s house helping her clean since she’s depressed and it shows. She’s at work until 230ish.
I did call Sam and tell her I’m not gonna keeping helping her and her kids if her kids keep giving me attitude when I ask them to do something. I might have yelled at them earlier and told the oldest to go upstairs with his attitude. I asked him for one thing and that is to do is own laundry he’s almost 10 and he’s very smart.
Sam says she understands and she now knows not to demand me to do anything since that will push me away from them. And she doesn’t want that. I also told Sam I won’t see Tavion as my brother to which they both understand why and he wants to try to rebuild the brother-sister relationship we once had.
I don’t know if I should give him a chance to. I told him I still need time to think about it and he agreeed to give me space. So we will see how this new sister relationship goes from here on out. If she doesn’t respect my boundaries one more time I’m gone.
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Heavy-Place1989 − Where is the original post?
mak_zaddy − Why would there be a need to press charges? For yelling?….
lapsteelguitar − If Tavion’s action warrant a call to the PD if repeated, they warrant a call to the PD now. Don’t wait for the kids to get worse/again.. ESH
AITAthrowaway1mil − Between the last post and here, with the disjointed/inconsistent storytelling and names characters coming in with no introduction, it’s very clear this was written by AI even more sloppily than usual.
tuna_tofu − You never need to do anyone a favor and it can always be revoked if it isnt working out. Time to bounce.
Was the user justified in setting boundaries with their sister and her boyfriend, or did they go too far in distancing themselves? How would you handle a situation where your family constantly crosses your boundaries? Share your thoughts below!