*UPDATE* Aith for kicking my fiancé out after “joking” he got me pregnant on purpose?

A 23-year-old woman (OP) posted previously about her fiancé (26M) joking at Thanksgiving that he got her pregnant to tie her down. After discussing the situation with him, his behavior continued to make her uncomfortable, including taking her keys without asking and insisting she make changes to their relationship.

Feeling unsafe and unsupported, OP called her father, who drove six hours to take her and their baby to his house. While her fiancé has been blowing up her phone, she feels conflicted about ending the relationship, especially considering the wedding and joint financial commitments they have. read the original story below…

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‘ *UPDATE* Aith for kicking my fiancé out after “joking” he got me pregnant on purpose?’

I 23f made a post last week about a joke my fiancé (26m) made at thanksgiving while drunk, to everyone that hasn’t seen my older post. He joked that he got me pregnant to tie me down and i didn’t know what to make of it, so i posted on here to get outside opinions.

I didn’t want to initially talk to my friends or family about it because they’re all quite close to him and i didn’t want to make a mountain out of a molehill and cause drifts in there relationships.

Yesterday we had a conversation about where I was at but he said he couldn’t go back to the hotel because they kicked him out for smoking in the room, he stopped smoking while I was pregnant but he said i was stressing him out, so he had to stay at the apartment.

While I was otp to one of my girls in the bedroom he came in and took the phone off me and told me to come and eat, while we was eating he said that he understood what I said and that things need to change for us to move forward he then proceeded to list all the things I needed to do to make things better,

his tone the whole conversation was just making me uneasy. I texted my dad saying that he was making me uncomfortable when he wasn’t looking. I went to check on the baby and when I came back I saw him take my keys out my purse but didn’t say anything.

He took my silence as agreement to everything he said and went to bed (instead of the couch like we had agreed) like everything was normal I stayed in the living room and my dad bless him drove 6 hours to come and get us. My dad got to the apartment around 5 this morning while my fiancé was still sleeping and we left.

Me and my son are at my parents house now, my fiancés been blowing up my phone since this morning I sent a text to him as we were driving off saying he wasn’t respecting the fact that I needed space and time to just figure everything out, so he could stay in the apartment and I’ll stay at my parents.

We haven’t officially broken up or called the wedding off my parents who’ve paid for it have said that they don’t care if I wanna call it off but I feel bad. But I just wanna say thank you to everyone who replied to my original post and private messaged me i didn’t think people would care about me.

I feel like every option I have is bad, the thought of being a single mom is scary, if my fiancés behaviour gets worse that would be s**t, if we cancel the wedding and cost my parents thousands of dollars I’ll feel guilty and if we break up all together we just got a house together we’re both on the mortgage, our joint accounts and I’ve been with him since I was 19 being without him for good is also scary.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

deathtoallants −  He sounds crazy and not the type of person you’d want to spend your life with.

Bearliz −  NTA. It was very worrisome he took your car keys. He’s also very controlling. There’s a lot of red flags. His comments about getting you pregnant and how everything is your fault and you need to change goe the better.

You’re young and shouldn’t waste your life on something you will regret. He will not change because, in his view, you’re the one who needs to shape up.

KitterKatt −  Do NOT feel guilty about stuff that can be replaced or remade. Money? Not a problem. Canceling the wedding? Embarrassing for HIM because you know why you need to leave.

He physically ripped the phone away from you, took your keys, and was absolutely being a**sive and throwing all the red flags you needed to get your dad to get you out. YOU AND YOUR BABIES SAFETY IS TOP PRIORITY.

If you go back to him you would then have a right to feel guilty putting you and your child in harms way. DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM. Get your father and police to show up at the apartment with you to retrieve your stuff. Go to court for child support/custody.

Do not give him a chance to get more violent and controlling. Please OP you only have one life, do you want this to be your life 20 years down the road? He admitted exactly why he got you pregnant and you SHOULD take it at face value with everything else he’s showing you. He thinks he has you trapped and you need to prove him wrong.

JFCMFRR −  Your dad is f**king awesome.

HereFromFB −  Op if you go back, he will make it harder for you to leave again. You seem to be coming to the realization that this is not a healthy partner and i hope you follow that intuition. Listen to your parents when they say it’s okay not to go through with the wedding!

Your dad drove 6 hrs for you on the fly and your mom has taught you to never be financially reliant on someone- those are parents who just want their daughter safe. Do not go back without someone with you!

I genuinely believe your fiancé is not safe for you to be alone with. And if you for some reason choose to stay, fight tooth and nail for that prenup. But i do think you and the baby need to get out.

davekayaus −  Your shouldn’t feel bad for him: his behavior is showing that what he said while drunk was the truth. Tell your parents to cancel everything now, they’ll get more money back this way. The money your parent save can be used on a lawyer who will show you how best to disentangle yourself from him financially and legally.

dramaandaheadache −  Girl, you’re gonna get killed if you stay in this relationship.

-whiteroom- −  He showed you a very scary and controlling side of himself when he came back. That is a part of him, a core part.

Either-Ticket-9238 −  You’re young. Your options may seem scary now but trust me, you are completely capable and have so much ahead of you without this man tying you down. You can accomplish anything you put your mind to, for you and your child. But you cannot change this man and make him a better person.

OP is struggling with guilt over the potential fallout from ending the relationship, including the financial implications and the fear of being a single mom. It’s clear she’s seeking clarity and peace of mind. What do you think? Share your thoughts below!