UPDATE: AITA for kicking my uncle out of “his” house?

A Reddit user shared an update after a challenging family situation involving her uncle and a house he felt entitled to, despite her ownership. With support from the community, she decided not to lower the rent or extend the contract as requested, which led to significant family tension. However, she recently received the full payment for the property, providing some relief amidst strained relationships. Read her full update below for the details on how everything unfolded.

First, please read my original post: https://aita.pics/naTzq

‘ UPDATE: AITA for kicking my uncle out of “his” house?’

First off, I want to say a huge thank you to everyone who commented and supported me through this ordeal. I genuinely appreciated all the advice and the emotional validation that came my way. I tried my best to read as many comments as I could, and the consensus was clear: I am not the a**hole!

Following the advice I received here, I made the decision not to extend the contract or lower the price. After reading the responses, I sent my uncle a message responding to his request to lower the price, saying, “I will take this as you declining the extension and will expect the money by Nov. 1, 2024.”

Since then, it appears I may have been officially cut off from my grandma and uncle. We happened to show up at the same restaurant last week, and there was absolutely no acknowledgment from them.

Additionally, a close family member passed away recently, and no one from my family reached out to me about it—except for my mother. Despite the family strain, as of this morning, I officially received the funds for the house in full.

That has been the biggest relief after all the stress of this past year. Again, thank you all for the advice, support, and truth checks I needed.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

MaudeBaggins −  I wouldn’t shed any tears over being cut off by grandmother and uncle. They sound like a pair of grifters. Very unethical to try to s**m a 23yo. You’re better off without them.

russtyy_shackleford −  You did the right thing. They were 1000% trying to take advantage of you

FinanceUSA −  Good for you for sticking to your guns. Honestly, the terms of the original lease and your initial extension offer (assuming no increase in the purchase price from the original agreement) were extremely generous.

Clearly your uncle could pay the purchase price agreed with your grandfather and was prepared to do so. That your grandma ganged up with your uncle on you is very sad. The resolution shows they just tried to take advantage of you.

They may have even lied to you about the mortgage approval limit of $350k.You don’t need that at all in your life. I hope you take this and invest it in your future – however you think best to do that. Don’t make any decisions right away.

The money now may be far more powerful than whatever the state of the property is in at the end of the lease extension, especially if there is any issue with how the construction is performed and without necessary permits and inspections required in most places (I assume you are in the US).

Your grandpa would be proud of you for how you ended up handling this wish of his – that you benefit from his hard work and real estate investment. You stood up to two bullies. Best of luck.

Traveling-Techie −  Most people get loving relationships with close relatives for free, but for OP the price tag was $27,000. Not a good deal.

son-of-a-mother −  Whenever money is involved, there is no way to have a happy ending for both parties. In this case, grandma and uncle were trying to take advantage of you. It is good that you did not let them do so.

Somebody_81 −  Congratulations! It’s very hard to stand up to family. Next time will be a bit easier, though. Hopefully in time your family will come to see that you did the right thing.

SavingsRhubarb8746 −  Wow! Congratulations on getting the money. Clearly, they had it – they were just trying to pay you less than they had originally agreed to.

I wouldn’t worry too much about the family. You know your grandmother and uncle were trying to take advantage of you, and the rest of them will probably be back in your life once emotions have calmed down.

Outrageous-forest −  Thank you for the update and you did the right thing. The house was never his and legally had no right to make any changes, especially construction without your approval.

If your uncle had money for construction, that money should have gone towards his down-payment instead. Ultimately that would have reduced his loan amount where he might have been able to afford it. He also could have gotten a second job to to increase his savings towards his down-payment.

You also don’t need your grandma and uncle in your life. They definitely are entitled and had no problem “taking advantage” of family, b**lying them,  and probably even lying to family.

Don’t forget, your grandpa could have changed his Will at any time so that your uncle got the house outright or better terms for him.  Your grandpa didn’t do that. Grandpa would be proud of you for protecting your future which was his intention all along.. NTA

Here_IGuess −  Thanks for the update. Glad you were able to get everything worked out.

L_Bronco −  Whoa! Congrats!

Do you think she made the right decision by standing firm on her boundaries, even at the risk of family fallout? How would you handle a similar situation with family pressure over property? Share your thoughts below!