UPDATE: AITA for charging my sister’s family to stay in my house during Christmas?

After receiving strong reactions from her family, the Reddit user (31F) has provided an update on the situation with her sister’s family staying at her home for Christmas. As tensions continued to rise over the request for a cleaning fee and utility charges, the user has reflected on the feedback and shared how the situation has evolved. Read on to find out what happened next and how the family dynamics have shifted since the original post.

First, please read original post: https://aita.pics/dcDzQ

‘UPDATE: AITA for charging my sister’s family to stay in my house during Christmas?’

So, I talked to my sister again about the charges after the initial conversation where I laid out my conditions. I even offered to remove them if they cleaned up their mess, but she said no and insisted I should experience her life and deal with things the way she does.

I did say no at first, but she kept insisting, I decided to stand firm tho. She said she’d never come back if I charged them, but I told her that if they want to stay, they need to take responsibility for the damage. She kept saying no because she just wanted a fun vacation without having to worry about cleaning, like she does at home. So, I guess they won’t be coming. It’s frustrating because I thought this was a fair compromise.

I keep wondering if I should stand firm on my boundaries or let it go to keep the peace, but I know standing firm is probably right, but man this doesn’t feel good. Thanks to everyone for your advice and a few cruel words lol.

See what others had to share with OP:

Odd_Lavishness_9485 −  Why does she want you to experience her life and the way she lives it? If she doesn’t like it she needs to make changes, not inflict it on you! She needs therapy.

ferventlotus −  At least you know now that she doesn’t care or respect your place at all, and that you’re justified in asking them to stay at a hotel if they don’t want to worry about things like clean-up or taking responsibility for her crotch demons.

If other family members get involved, which is likely if she goes crying to family when she doesn’t get her way, let them know that “you’re all for them coming if they’re ready to take responsibility for anything that gets damaged or destroyed while they stay there.

If they can’t agree to that, thank you (relative who called you) for being willing to take them in for the holiday and putting your own place on the line. Also, the last time they visited, (list of what they ruined) and it cost ($x) to repair it. Heads up though, she won’t pay you a cent for it.”

treehuggerfroglover −  She literally told you she expects to treat you as a free hotel, maid service included. She wanted a fun vacation where she didn’t have to be responsible for any damage or mess made by herself or her kids, and she didn’t want to have to do any cleaning.

pixie-ann −  I’m proud of you for standing your ground. Quite amazed at your sister for actually being honest about their intentions to treat you like a free hotel and that you should be their free maid. “She said they’d never come back if I charged them”. Don’t threaten me with a good time!

dr_lucia −  She kept saying no because she just wanted a fun vacation without having to worry about cleaning, like she does at home. Then she should find an AirBNB and hire a cleaner to go through when she leaves. Or stay at a hotel. So, I guess they won’t be coming.. Ok.

I keep wondering if I should stand firm on my boundaries. Yes; stand firm. You are NTA. It’s not your duty to provide hotel service to your sister at all much less for free. As for family who suggest you should let her stay with you: suggest *they* host her. And anyway, shouldn’t the kids go visit grandma and grandpa?

Realistic-Animator-3 −  If you wanted to experience her life, as she feels you should, you would have married and had kids you don’t discipline. NTA.

Madmattylock −  NTA. She trippin’. Stand firm. The audacity to want you to be her personal maid and servant while her bad ass kids trash and damage your house. As another wise Redditor once said, “The lion, the witch and the audacity of this b**ch.”

Chaoticgood790 −  lol let her try that at an airbnb and see how fast she gets charged. your sister is an i**ot.

No-Trouble2212 −  “a fun vacation without having to worry about cleaning”. Read – they will destroy your s**t.

evilgenius6 −  YOU AND YOUR HOME ARE NOT A HOTEL.. NTA.