[UPDATE 2]: My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.

A Reddit user and her boyfriend confronted his friend after he tried to spike her drink, using messages to get a confession. The friend’s response was chilling—he blamed her, tried to manipulate her into keeping it a secret,

and only changed his tune when he realized she wasn’t falling for it. When called out directly, he resorted to gaslighting and insults. Now, she just wants to move on, with her report filed and her boyfriend standing by her side. Read the original story below…

‘ [UPDATE 2]: My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.’

This OP: My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.

Update 1: [UPDATE] My (21f) boyfriend’s friend (both 22M) tried to spike my drink.

I gave my boyfriend my phone to text S if he wanted, he texted him from his phone as well as from mine. He made it seem like nothing had happened at first on his phone while texting him from mine that I was very upset about what had happened, that I needed an explanation and that I was telling my bf everything.

His answer was “How could you not know I have always liked you? I thought you liked me too.” “I am sorry I went too far but you gave me all these signs” “Anyway,\*bf\* doesn’t need to know, let’s keep it between us, he wouldn’t believe you anyway” and the worst one “this could still happen if you want, we’ll make it our secret.” Needless to say my boyfriend was pissed.

He then sent a message saying “what about the drink you got me at the end, I saw you put something in it.” He then called many times but we didn’t answer and he ended up saying “you’re crazy, you’re imagining things, what the hell is wrong with you?” then several other messages calling me names that we didn’t answer.

My boyfriend called him and told him that I had told him everything, that he should beat him up and that he would if he ever showed his face again. He also talked to our other friends but not in details, just saying how he acted weird towards me. I don’t know what is going to come of that. Honestly, I just don’t want to see him again now. The police has my report and I hope he never tries that again but I can’t do much more..

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

[Reddit User] −  I dont think you need to hide anything from your other friends. One person in their group tried to date rape another friends gfs drink, that could easily be them and their gf on the receiving end.

MichaelScottOfReddit −  Screenshot for the date rapist pm please don’t blur the username

[Reddit User] −  Take the text message threats to the police and update the report. Also go to the court house with the texts and get a restraining order.

JohnTheDropper −  “I thought you liked me so I tried to d**g you. That’s how dating works right?” He needs to be locked up.

Scampipants −  You should show those messages to the mods and if they won’t do anything then take it up with the admins.

burnthiswhendone −  . He also talked to our other friends but not in details, just saying how he acted weird towards me. I don’t know what is going to come of that.
I think it should be in detail. Everyone should know what a piece of s**t he is.

[Reddit User] −  Your Boyfriends cares for you a lot, Gotta show respect for keeping his calm and not wanting to punch the dude in the face a billion times.

DoctorGuvnor −  Please show the police the message ‘Date Rapist Here: Hey I just wanted to let you know you really should keep your f**king mouth closed. I knew a person who didn’t and things didn’t end well for them. ;)’

Edit: I completely misunderstood this – I read it as the message came from S, which would then make sense to show to the police, but obviously not, just some troll, although it does have a very personal flavour, don’t you think?

Mikamymika −  Just more signs that he is a scumbag, throwing the ”I thought you liked me and you showed me the signs” but spikes the drink. I hope he tries it again and will get caught and punished.

nucular_mastermind −  I’m really sorry that happened to you. Good luck to you and your boyfriend, you both handled it in the most responsible way you could have!
And please report those fuckers that PM you s**t like you mentioned, the internet is unfortunately home to lots of pathetic individuals like this.

She did everything right—she reported it, confronted him, and has support. But is it enough? Should she push further or try to move on? What would you do in her place? Share your thoughts.