Update 2: AITAH for telling my 19f daughter she will have to move out of my house if I get divorced because of her lies after after her stepdad saw her n**ed?

Hell everyone. Been a while and i see a bunch of people asking for updates, i wasn’t in the mood and i have been crying myself to sleep every night. I don’t know what to do anymore, i lost my husband, family and my daughter.
Thank you to everyone first but it’s official im getting divorced. I was served with the divorce papers and my husbandwant nothingto do with us anymore. First, please read my original post:  & update post: https://aita.pics/KQJAe

‘ Update 2: AITAH for telling my 19f daughter she will have to move out of my house if I get divorced because of her lies after after her stepdad saw her n**ed?’

 

I have moved out of the house and i am currently staying with a friend untill i can get my life back in order. I have cut completely contact with my family but they still try and get into contact with me from different numbers or from different profiles on FB and Instagram. I don’t know how long i can continue to stay with my friend because her life is now being impacted as well with my family members just showing up at her apartment.

I would like to get a different place to stay but my salary won’t be able to cover everything i need. My husband or STBXH covered all our bills previously but now i have to do everything myself. My daughter just packed her things a little over a week ago and moved away i don’t know where she is at the moment and her friends are refusing to tell me anything.

She tried to talk to my STBXH and he got a restraining order against her, she violated the order and he got her arrested, i don’t know what went on in her head i tried to talk to her but she was admitted that she will fix everything but like i said my ex got a restraining order against her and then had her arrested when she kept going to him.

My daughter will have to drop out of college because my ex is now refusing to continue covering anything els for her and retracted his offer to continue paying. He sent me a message saying he done. I didn’t respect his wishes so i had to get out of his house immediately and my daughter also went against his wishes so he is retracting everthing from her as well. She is on her own. He said if i or my daughter continues harassing him he will open up a case against my daughter for defamation.

I don’t have enough money for myself at the moment with my job and all the bills so i definitely can’t assist her, she packed up in the middle of the night and just left after i told her she will have to drop out and get a job.

My STBXH became completely emotionless and cold the last couple of weeks and refused to talk to me about anything other than anything regarding the divorce. He said he would have been supportive and assisted for a while untill i could get on my feet but it clear we only want to use him, his generosity so he is done. He wanted to void the prenup we have but will now follow the prenup to the letter meaning i will basically get nothing in the divorce.

I don’t want anything, i just want him back. Even with everything that happened, i still want my husband the kind, carring, sweet man i had i want him back. I need him to come back. I told him my daughter moved out of the house and asked again if we could try and fix our marriage and he didn’t even respond.

The last message i got from him was him asking if i signed the divorce papers yet or if i got a lawyer yet to look over the divorce papers. Because he want to be done with this and move on because it’s clear to him now that no one in my family me included respected him at all. In that message he also said i should get my family to back off because they are still harassing him with message, calls and email and he is sick of it. If they don’t stop het will report them as well.

To the people that keep asking me why i didn’t do anything when the lies started to spread i did do everything i could. I was accused of protecting my c**ep of a husband and the video didn’t help because i did send it to some of my relatives but it has no audio so it only shows him knocking and then walking in my daughter said sje awnsered him and he still went in.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

MikeReddit74 −  Your STBX doesn’t want to reconcile with you. Once broken, some things can’t be fixed. Sign the papers so you can both move on.

Aeonxreborn −  You have to let him go. Your daughter destroyed him. Let the man claw some life back.

StarsBear75063 −  I don’t want anything, i just want him back.. Not going to happen. Move on.

Potential_Stomach_10 −  Leave the man alone. He’s suffered enough at the hands of your daughter and family.

Imaginary-Yak-6487 −  Your marriage is over bc of your daughter’s unforgivable lies. It’s not about what you want. It’s not about you. Leave him alone.

Comfortable_Image299 −  I totally understand that this is terrible on everyone, and that you want your husband back. Fair. The problem is, that man is gone. I don’t mean that your husband has moved on our moved out, but that the damage that was done to him by your daughter and family has caused the man that you loved to be torn apart.

That man you once knew no longer exists. Your ex-husband has been changed, fighting for his reputation, character, and his freedom. What’s left is the man still trying to protect himself, and the only way he can do that is creating legal boundaries (that you, daughter and family are continuing to break). If you love the man that once was, let the man go. Let him try to salvage his life. He can’t do that unless you stop.

AsuraRathalos −  Damn bruh your daughter is a class act, I wished there were places to store information like this on a person, because this isn’t something any man would want to deal with, if she dates men. Anyways you should tell you ex to file a police report on your family, get all the names and addresses for them and either file the report or sue them for defamation or something.

What they’re doing is total harassment and it’s disruptive to his life and maybe even work. Let your daughter suffer, she’s gonna learn how hard the streets are. And you just gotta move on, there’s nothing left here to salvage.

Mindless-Top766 −  Please leave him alone. If you truly love him as much as you claim do the right thing and leave him alone. He is never gonna love you or want you again and you know that. Just do the right thing and leave him alone.

OkLocksmith2064 −  you need to stop contacting him. Sign the papers and move away. Get a new job and start new. I don’t know why you didn’t right away tell your daughter that he won’t pay for anything regarding her.
I don’t know why you would harass him when he was willing to help you till you get back on your feet. Now you’ve lost everything cause you handled everything badly.

I wish you all the best. Move. Move far away, no Instagram, no Facebook, nothing. Start new. Good luck and merry christmas. You will thrive, you need just a little time. And stop contacting your daughter.

DryAd2926 −  It took me 5 years after a false allegation to reach out to even my closest friend, it took 2 years to leave the house again for any reason, i struggle going anywhere without my wife still 5 years later. And that was with the full support of my wife and kids. These things break you. I’ve avoided the recent d**th of my grandfather and aunts funerals to avoid any chance of drama again. Half my family to this day still thinks I’m guilty. For something that was easily proven false in court. An allegation is far more severe than people realize.