Update 2 : Aita for going behind my wife’s back and telling her pregnant sister that she’s being cheated on?

Many people asked me for an update and I also do need some outsider’s perspective over my situation so here it goes. First, please read my original and 1nd update post.

Original post: https://aita.pics/oCikw
1nd update: https://aita.pics/MgIme

‘ Update 2 : Aita for going behind my wife’s back and telling her pregnant sister that she’s being cheated on?’

But before I just want to clarify/ask to people who kept calling me names for telling my sil the truth, why you guys kept telling me to mind my own business? She’s family and if families don’t look out for each other and help then who else will? Strangers? And it’s not just some harmless/small lie from my bil, it’s life changing, my sil isn’t just my sil, she’s my friend if I didn’t tell her the truth now then my pos bil would have just kept cheating and I would lose a friend if I delayed.

Anyway coming back to update, my sil only stayed at my place for 2 days, after then she called me and said she can’t trouble me anymore and she’s going to live in hotel, I tried to convince her to not blow up her money unnecessarily but she didn’t listen and left anyway.

And yes I am divorcing my wife, after a week of nc, she called me and said she wants to reconcile, she said she was angry that I didn’t listen to her and went behind her back, she said she didn’t want to break her sister’s family so she wanted to hide it and convince my bil to not cheat but I fucked it all up and she’s coming back. I just asked her to come back cause I wanted to talk to her and it’s not something you discuss over calls.

Once my wife arrived and started to explain herself, I told her I am filling, she was pretty shocked, she said we can make it work, I told her we can’t, I don’t trust you after everything you said and you just left me with no contact and you show up suddenly while I was worried all day about where my wife is or is she safe etc? I can’t make it work.

She tried convincing me to not divorce but I had already made my intentions clear, I told her that her sister stayed at our place for 2 days and she got angry and said ‘fine let’s divorce’ and left. I told my sil that I am getting a divorce, she wasn’t happy about it but she didn’t try to convince me in or out of it, I told her that she can stay with me instead of hotel, she said it’s inappropriate, I just said either you blow up your money and struggle or she can accept my help.

So my sil and I have been living together for past couple of days and we discussed about our spouses and their behaviour, we both got pretty angry about this all. My sil got even more angry than I was and she ended up calling my wife and called her names and she told me she’s hellbent onto ruining my bil, she is divorcing him and will go nuclear on him and ask for as much money as alimony and child support, she wants to drain him.

My wife and I didn’t talk to each other after she left and we both know that we are divorcing, my sil tho angry she calmed down cause its unhealthy for her and her baby and she started focusing on career and reads stories about single moms, she’s preparing herself.

So yeah that’s all, and weirdos stay away, neither my sil nor I have any feelings between each other, I am just helping her and she wasn’t feeling good about it that’s why she was hesitating so much, call me a moral police but I know I did the right thing not just for my sil but for me as well, I now know what kinda woman my wife is.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

deconblues1160 −  Did your wife ever tell you where she went. I find it interesting that she has a place where she can just go for an extended period of time and nobody knows where she went to.. Updateme.

MsSpooncats −  I’m so sorry you’re having to go through with this. NTA, but please get support from whomever you can, and continue providing support to your SIL. Wishing you the best going forward.

Competitive-Cry-1807 −  Placing bets: Wife went to her AP in the initial update, only to get dumped, so decided to come back to reconcile. Either way should probably have squeezed that information out of her, but meh divorce either way lol

accj30 −  To me this is all fake, the next update will be him dating his sister-in-law and raising her child.

dollywooddude −  Info: Why doesn’t your SIL go stay with her parents? I assume she would be more comfortable there and need their support more?

TwilightLoom −  Went through a similar situation, trust your instincts and focus on healing. Stay strong.

somefreeadvice10 −  Why was your wife so angry that you let her sister stay with you? And did she even tell you where she was or who she was with? Its hard not to think she was cheating with the BIL.. UpdateMe.

ivy5kin −  On the next update, OP will do the “one thing led to another with SIL” bit.

Secret_Double_9239 −  Bet money wife was with bil.

Far_Prior1058 −  Get a good lawyer. You will get all sorts of people here. Good luck. Updateme!