Update 1: AITA for blocking my childhood best friend after she tried to make me pay for the catering at her son’s first birthday?
The Redditor (28F) shares an update about her fallout with Anna (28F), who secretly charged $500 on her credit card for catering at her son’s first birthday. After involving Anna’s parents and disputing the charge, Anna confronted the Redditor, showing no accountability and accusing her of being selfish. Now, the Redditor is taking legal action. Read the full update below…
For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/YGfzd
‘ Update 1: AITA for blocking my childhood best friend after she tried to make me pay for the catering at her son’s first birthday?’
I never expected this to blow up—thank you all for your advice. I have already filed a dispute with my credit card company. I also told her parents about the incident, and they were shocked by her behavior. They said they would talk to her.
I figured they already did because after I told them what happened, she stormed over to my house, ranting about why I was making such a big deal by telling her parents and reminding me that we’ve been best friends who literally grew up together.
I explained where she went wrong, but instead of taking accountability, she accused me of being selfish. She clearly isn’t in the right mind. I don’t know if she’s experiencing postpartum issues, but I’m not going to tolerate this kind of treatment. I also told her that if she didn’t stop harassing me over a problem she created, I will file a restraining order.
As for the money she used, I’ve decided to follow your advice and press charges, so she can (hopefully) learn her lesson. For those doubting if this story is real, I wish it wasn’t. Not only was my trust shattered, but so was my heart.
Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:
toxicrayofsunshine − Your ex-friend sounds entitled af. You may want to seriously consider canceling the card she used and getting a new one issued. I know it’s a pain but you never know if she’ll use it again to be petty. You’re still NTA but it sounds like you could use some better friends.
blackravenmetal − That’s good you pressed charges. She needs to be held accountable and face the consequences.
Maya2661 − Good job. I don’t know what is wrong with her, but it’s not normal behavior. It’s crazy.
I_Dont_Like_Rice − It’s amazing how formerly reasonable people turn into entitled monsters once they have a child. Like the world owes them. I lost a best friend when she had her kid, too, OP. I was the one who held her hand as she gave birth. We parted ways without the explosive grenade lobbing though. Sorry you lost your friend. Let us know what happens with the charges you filed..
geniologygal − Did you figure out if she used your card for anything more than the birthday party? She deserves it to have charges pressed against her. The fact that she’s doubling down and doesn’t see where she’s wrong is very concerning.
RaymondBeaumont − How many of the friends who supported her offered to pay you her debt?
A_Man_Duh2028 − Real sorry this happened to you, however, sometimes we outgrow people and this is clearly one person you lacks maturity and accountability. Hopefully pressing charges will get her to wake up, but in either case it’s time to move on! Keep us posted!.
Clean-Fisherman-4601 − PPD wouldn’t cover theft. That’s just a spoiled i**ot who thinks they’re entitled to someone else’s money. Glad you pressed charges.
Stardust_N_Memories − Have you changed your home locks OP? I’d wager a life long best friend also has a key to your home and could potentially damage, destroy, or steal to get back at you for pressing charges, telling her parents/ friends, and disputing the charges on your credit card.
Sometimes familiarity breeds contempt with people and they begin to feel entitled to the money, property, time, and help of their family and friends. You don’t have the costs, time constraints, or exhaustion she has from raising the child she chose to have so in her mind you owe her your time and resources to make up for that.
It is a wildly incorrect mentality to have but unfortunately some people get laser focused on satisfying their wants no matter the cost to anyone around them. I’m sorry for the loss of trust and friendship you’re experiencing but it is no way your fault.
You should not bear any guilt or ill will in this situation from anyone. Anyone giving you a hard time can ante up the money to pay ex besties expenses and she can steal their credit cards, property, and trust for her next escapade.
Do you think the Redditor is right to press charges to set boundaries and teach a lesson? Or do you think there’s a better way to resolve the situation? Share your opinions in the comments below!
For those who want to read the sequel: https://aita.pics/ZfRRn