Today I (18M) found out my best friend (18F) knows i’m in love with her

A Reddit user found out today that his best friend of many years knows he’s in love with her. During a casual game with friends, she openly revealed his secret, leaving him speechless. He never planned to confess, especially since she’s been in a relationship for years, but now that she knows—what should he do next? Read the original story below…

‘ Today I (18M) found out my best friend (18F) knows i’m in love with her’

So today me and a couple of my friends including my best friend were having a casual chat. Some time passed and we decided to play some “game” where we tell one of the person’s secrets that they think we don’t know. So it starts with some small things but gradually we all start telling more and more deeper secrets.

And just like that, out of nowhere, she says how she knows i’ve never had a gf because i’m in love with her and don’t want other girls (which is very true). I tried laughing it off, and saying how she’s crazy, but she insisted that she knows and that I can’t lie to her.

At that point i think my face turned white and I legit had no idea what to even do or say. I was sure my behaviour towards her was not in any way indicative of the fact that im in love with her, but somehow sheknows. I also never told anyone about it before telling you right now, so I can’t say someone ratted me out.

She said that it was the way I looked at her. I never planned on telling her because she’s in a relationship for over 2 years now and I know there’s not even a chance. But now that I know she knows, what do I do?

This update: Update: Today I (18M) found out my best friend (18F) knows i’m in love with her

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

freebase1ca −  Sounds like the two of you can now talk about it like adults.

BuppBuppBupp −  eat some cheese. that always helps everything.

Griff1007 −  So she outed you in front of others with no consideration toward reciprocation? Thank you very much for the silver 🙂

mountaindewpog −  She may be in a relationship but why would she bring it up if she didn’t want to talk about it? She either: a) is aware and wanted to address it and clear the air so that your friendship isn’t awkward. b) was testing how you would react when she did bring it up as she may be interested in you

ThomasRaith −  I recommend drinking to excess and texting her something embarrassing at 2AM.

[Reddit User] −  Sometimes its just best to move on. I know that sounds harsh, but if you aren’t pursuing relationships because you are stuck on her, you are doing yourself a disservice. I’ve been there and understand its not a fun situation to deal with.

TSwizzlesNipples −  Well, guess you have to p**s on her bf’s shoes to assert your dominance.

LetMeLyv −  I honestly think that if you don’t want to stop being friends with her, you should probably just ignore it. It most likely hurts that she’s in a relationship and that you can’t have her, but she’s been with this guy for 2 years and knows your in love with her and has ignored it in order to stay friends.

I’m sure your a wonderful guy and that she loves you deeply as a friend. I mean it’s a different thing altogether if she knew and has been low key flirting with you but there’s nothing you can do unless you want to cut her out and move on.

mejaterbang −  english is not my first language, so im sorry if you dont understand me.. ​She said that it was the way I looked at her. i have experienced this before, also my best friend. she have a fiance and someday suddenly she asked me how my feeling to her, i said nothing, but she tell me exactly what this girl told OP, “She said that it was the way I looked at her.”

and i asked back what if i have a feeling to you ? is there any necessary i must tell you now since you are getting married soon. She doesnt respond anything and just keep silent, but deep down inside our heart we know we **DO** have feeling to each other (dont ask me why i know, i just do) but i know i cant and just shrug it off that time.

time passed very fast probably her child is 5 or 6 years old now ? i have her facebook but we never contact each others again. but im glad to see her have a happy family.. ​so, the point what i want to tell OP is, im regret it now, im regretting not to tell her how i really feel bout her, i dont know what will happen if i told her i love her that time, but i truly regret it to not telling her . Dont be like me OP, just go for it! may god bless you!

1337saucer −  Own it. Don’t be a sexless nerd. F**k yeah you like her. It’s not something to hide.

Now that the truth is out, should he address his feelings directly or try to move on? Have you ever been in a similar situation? Share your thoughts below!