Should I(22 F) break up with my husband (31 M)?

A young woman shared her heartbreaking story about her marriage to a man who has repeatedly violated her trust and disrespected her. Despite setting clear boundaries at the beginning of their relationship, he has ignored them, lied, and made hurtful comments about her appearance.

While she still loves him, she’s deeply hurt and unsure if her marriage can be saved. Now, she’s asking for advice on whether to continue giving him chances or prioritize her own well-being. Read her story and the community’s thoughts below.

‘ Should I(22 F) break up with my husband (31 M)’

I know our relationship is gonna sound crazy but here we go.. I met my husband about 4 years ago. We both work at the same company and met through work. I did have a massive crush on him and after couple of months I got the courage to ask him out.

He agreed and after a month we started dating. I shortly discovered that I was pregnant. We both wanted to have kids and I always wanted to be a young mom, so we decided to keep the baby. Everything went so well and we moved in together.

I was so happy and so In love with my boyfriend. Our first baby was born and we were so happy.. but now everything has changed. In the beginning of our relationship I told him that there are certain things that I’m not ok with , example watching corn and doing d**g$.

He told me he understands and won’t do those things. I also told him that I don’t trust anyone and how badly I been treated in my past relationship. He also knows how negatively other people has spoken about my body(calling me fat, u**y…)

After our first baby was born he started lying to me, calling me names and commenting about my body, he walks away if he sees that I’m crying and doing those exact things I told him I’m not ok with. I discovered that he’s been lying some stuff throughout our relationship.

He shows me pictures of his ex girlfriend’s or his hook ups and tells me how good they look, and at the same time he tells me that my stomach should be smaller. I almost daily discover new things he’s been lying about. I told him that I’m exhausted and I want to break up.

He’s been crying and begging me for second chance (even though I been giving him multiple chances) and now I don’t know what to do. I still love this man so much, but I’m so hurt by all of this. I literally opened my heart to this man and gave him every last piece of me.

Somehow I just feel so embarrassed and ashamed.. what should I do?(By the way English isn’t my first language so sorry If my writing isn’t perfect :d). TLDR
Should I break up with my husband after I found out he’s lying about everything and he is treating me so badly

Check out how the community responded:

ahdrielle −  Hmm, a full-on adult started dating an 18 year old. Shocked that he’s a terrible man.. Yes, do divorce.

druscarlet −  You know the answer to this question. He won’t change. Do you want your child to be raised in this environment?

Overall_Card_5704 −  I wonder why a 27 year old man had to date a teenager who doesn’t know any better…. I really do.

Whyme0207 −  That’s why you shouldn’t rush things in a relationship. Especially to have kids. I feel bad for kids they have to suffer due to their parent’s immaturity.

Hopeful_Protection58 −  Hell no, kid! GTFO of this relationship. This a**sive pos man thought he will keep on nagging you and make you feel so bad about yourself that you will never have the courage to even consider leaving him.

If he cared about you, he wouldn’t actively neg you and make you feel like s**t. Don’t fall for his crocodile tears. Let me get this straight- a grown ass 30+ year old man didn’t know what he was doing was so wrong, and only now “realizes” and he’s apologizing when you’re thinking of dumping his ASS.

D**p his f**king ass. And get some f**king therapy.

Evening_Job_9332 −  What business does a 27 year old have with an 18 year old?

tammage −  Sounds like once he had you locked down (baby makes you less likely to leave) he’s finally showing you his true self. When someone tells you who they are, believe them. This is who he is.

Skoolies1976 −  he says he wants another chance- but what is he doing to become a better person, what is he working on? how will staying together make your life better?

Elektra2024 −  Love you more! He’s putting you down and making you insecure to manipulate you and control you. I am not going to tell you to stay or go, you can decide what is best for you.

Also, get some therapy he’s tried to destroy your self esteem and confidence. You need to focus on your mental, emotional and physical health. You deserve better. Good luck!

feyepuiylone −  This sounds like a bad man. Imagine what the ACTUAL love of your life would think and say about the situation you’re in and about how this man is treating you.

There is somebody out there who would immediately want to take you out of this situation and beat his ass for ever doing that to you. Imagine that person and go find them. Luckily you’re still young so you have a lot of time.