Peed my pants. My bf wouldn’t help me ?

A woman (in her late 20s) had stress incontinence after a vaginal birth, and during an exam at school, she couldn’t leave to use the bathroom until she finished. After the exam, she accidentally peed her pants while rushing to the restroom.

She asked her boyfriend for help to buy new pants, but he initially refused and only complied after she sent him money. However, he didn’t want to enter the women’s restroom to hand her the clothes and left them outside the door, forcing her to walk out in wet pants. read the original story below…

‘ Peed my pants. My bf wouldn’t help me ?’

So I had a vaginal birth nearly three years ago and since then I’ve had stress incontinence. Today, I was in class and I was taking an exam. I had to pee so bad but couldn’t leave until it was done. When I finally finished, I peed my pants and it leaked as I went to the bathroom.

I refused to leave the bathroom until I had another outfit and my bf refused to help me. I asked him to buy sweats from the uni gift shop and he refused at first until I sent him money for them (I asked to borrow).

He then said he wanted me to walk to the restroom door and I said my pants are covered in pee there’s no I can do that and he said he’s not walking into the women’s restroom. I told him to hand it to a girl walking in and he wouldn’t.

He eventually left them outside the door to the restroom and I had to walk out in pee pants. I’m furious with him. Do I have a right to be?

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Sudden-Knowledge-447 −  Yes. A couple years ago I ended up needing serious gyn reconstructive surgery. My husband, knowing nothing about periods because we got together after my hysterectomy and I was his first live in partner,

googled pads and even went as far as seeing how carcinogenic material is used in most feminine hygiene products so he found pads that were natural and chemical free because as he put it my lady bits have suffered enough.

Leading up to surgery my bladder and vagina we’re falling out of me and peeing either came to fast or not at all. I cried the first time I didn’t make the bathroom and you know what he did? He brought me clean clothes,

told me he loved me and (knowing how I am personality wise) made me laugh about what happened and quietly said “no big deal”. THAT is how it should be handled. Love and a little humor maybe but not shaming. Never shaming.

moxxon −  FFS I’d help a *stranger* in that situation. Helping a partner or family member is a no brainer.

avalynkate −  d**p him.

plodthruHideFlailing −  He sounds like the kind of guy who’d refuse to buy you tampons🙄 in an emergency, too. On a side note: has your Gyno ever mentioned pelvic floor therapy 4 your incontinence? If you can’t get a referral or if your insurance won’t pay 4 it (IF you have ins), you may want 2 check out pelvic floor excercises on YouTube.

BurritoChunk −  This is a man we are talking about? I would give money for the clothes and then a little extra for a bus ticket out of my life.

CatJarmansPants −  He’s an immature twat. I get being *uneasy* about walking into the women’s toilets, but he had other good options and wouldn’t take them – and in the end, there are ways of a bloke going into a women’s toilets without causing a fuss. It’s all just pathetic. Not husband material, not father material.

PinkThunder138 −  What a selfish c**ard. “HELLO? IS ANYONE IN HERE? MY GF NEEDS HELP SO I’M RUNNING IN FOR A MOMENT!” How hard is that? I’ve had to do this before and I’d do it again. The money, I’d need to know his financial state to judge there, but just based on the bathroom thing, d**p his ass. Dude is worthless.. NTA

Kenouk −  Ex boyfriend you mean

september4ths −  I have incontinence issues due to a head injury and when I was dating my now husband I asked him to stop at the store cus I needed to go pee ( change my pad), which he obviously didn’t know about my bladder issue cus I hadn’t brought it up.

Went to the rest room, my pad had leaked through. I was freaking out and crying and I thought when he found out he was gonna d**p me or think that I’m gross but when I told him what all was going on he walked right behind me with his arms around me so nobody would see and then when we got back to the car he held me while I cried.

Your BF should be doing nice things like that, not being a d**che. And if I would’ve asked him to go buy me some pants he would have and he probably wouldn’t have let me pay him back for them.

pinky_coconut −  NTA. Your boyfriend should have been more understanding and helpful in this situation. You were in a vulnerable and embarrassing position, and he should have prioritized your comfort and well-being.

It’s understandable to feel upset when you’re in a vulnerable situation and your partner doesn’t step up to help. Was her boyfriend being too insensitive, or did he have valid reasons for his actions? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!