Need advice. My fiance (58 m) expects me (54 f)to make him a full course breakfast during the work week. Are there women who work FT who have time to cook a full breakfast for their man before they start work?

A woman (54F) shares her frustration over her fiancé’s (58M) expectation for her to cook him a full breakfast during the workweek, despite both working full-time. While she enjoys cooking on weekends, she resents the expectation to wake up early to cook during busy mornings.

Her fiancé insists that other women would gladly do this for their partners. She’s now seeking insight from others: Are there women who juggle full-time jobs and still prepare full breakfasts during the week? Read her story below for more context.

‘ Need advice. My fiance (58 m) expects me (54 f)to make him a full course breakfast during the work week. Are there women who work FT who have time to cook a full breakfast for their man before they start work?’

My fiance is used to eating a full breakfast in the morning which includes bacon, eggs, potatoes and toast or biscuit. We both work a FT hybrid schedule. He says I should cook him breakfast at least 2 days during the workweek and on the weekends when he is hungry.

I’m not a breakfast person and I don’t want to wake up any earlier than I have to, to fix breakfast when I can eat yogurt. I feel like he is a grown man and he can fix his own breakfast during the workweek. I don’t mind cooking breakfast on the weekends but he should not expect it.

He thinks this is totally unacceptable. He even told me today, after he got up at 5:30a on a Saturday morning, he was hungry and was wondering if I was going to wake up and cook. WTF? Am I crazy? I told him if he was up that early fix your own dam breakfast.

He tells me women all over America would do this for their man. So I would like to know where are the women out here who work FT who are cooking a full breakfast for their man.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Tivland −  Reverse Uno. “Actually I’d prefer it if you made me a full breakfast in the morning.”

dirtylilscot −  “My fiancé is used to eating…” Who exactly has been making him these breakfasts? Because it kind of sounds like neither of you do, so I’m wondering where his expectation came from.

ichthis −  It’s not about whether other FT women have time to cook a full breakfast before work, it’s that a grown ass man shouldn’t be whining like a toddler for his partner to be his maid. Get you a different man, this one’s clearly defective.

IllustriousQuail4130 −  so he wants a slave, not a wife/GF. RUN!

PuzzledUpstairs8189 −  My husband would have to eat breakfast at 4:30 am for this to be a thing. He’s good with coffee and a croissant or piece of fruit. If he wants a housewife, he needs to be making housewife money.

Resident-Staff-1218 −  I’d tell him if women all over America would do this for their man, he best go get one of them to cook him his breakfasts and they’re welcome to him. Unless one or more of his limbs are missing, he knows where the pan is! As for getting up at 530 then waking you up to cook for him because he’s hungry? He’d best think again…

Training_Coyote2489 −  He’s 58 and acting like this? Why are you with him because I can guarantee this is not the only misogynistic thing he does to you. Was he married before? Maybe that’s why he’s middle aged and single. If he isn’t smart enough to know how to make some eggs and bacon he should ask for help.

Troutman86 −  I work FT and my wife is a SAHM, since I’m already up early I know she has a full day dealing with the kids I bring her coffee and make breakfast for her and the kids. Find someone that wants to make you happy, not someone that wants a live in maid.

Due-Season6425 −  News flash to your fiancee. It’s 2024 not 1974. If he really likes a solid breakfast, then cook it himself or grab it at a cafe on the way to work. Breakfast foods are pretty easy to prepare even for a beginner. For what it’s worth, I am a married man knocking on 60 y.o.

OMGeno1 −  Unless he doesn’t have arms for some reason, he is fully capable or cooking for himself if he needs a full course breakfast. He sounds like a d**k.

Do you think she’s being unreasonable, or is her fiancé’s expectation outdated? Should cooking breakfast in relationships be about mutual effort or personal preference? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.