My roommate’s boyfriend called me “mommy” in front of my friends so I kicked him out AITAH?

A Reddit user shared an awkward and uncomfortable encounter with her roommate’s boyfriend, Luke, who jokingly called her “mommy” in front of her friends during a movie night. Feeling humiliated, she asked him to leave the room, which led to tension with both Luke and her roommate, Claire. Now, Claire demands an apology, while the Redditor questions if her reaction was justified. Read the full story below to weigh in.

‘ My roommate’s boyfriend called me “mommy” in front of my friends so I kicked him out AITAH?’

So I (20F) live with my best friend Claire (21F). We’ve been super close since high school, and she’s basically my ride or die. Recently, she started dating this guy, Luke (23M), who honestly gives me the ick, but I’ve been keeping it to myself because I don’t wanna ruin things for her. Luke is one of those “wannabe alpha” dudes who thinks he’s super deep and edgy, but he just comes off as cringe. He also lowkey flirts with me sometimes, but I brush it off because it’s not worth the drama.

Anyway, last weekend I had some friends over for a movie night. Claire was working late, but Luke was hanging out in the apartment. Everything was chill until Luke randomly walked into the living room while we were watching the movie and said, “Hey mommy, can you make me some popcorn?”

The room went DEAD silent. I was mortified. My friends started awkwardly laughing, and I just stared at him like, “What?” He smirked and was like, “What? It’s a joke. You know, because you’re like the mom of the apartment.”
I told him to leave the room and not come back until Claire got home. He got all pissy and said I was overreacting, but I wasn’t about to let him act weird in front of my friends.

When Claire came home, I told her what happened, and she was mad at ME for kicking him out of the living room. She said I “humiliated” him and that he was just trying to be funny. Now Luke refuses to come over unless I apologize, and Claire is saying I’m being unreasonable. But like… who calls their girlfriend’s roommate “mommy” as a joke? AITA?

See what others had to share with OP:

takenpoet −  He called you “mommy” so you sent him to his room… lol dead.

errantis_ −  I see this as an absolute W, he won’t come over and you never have to see him again. Don’t ever back down btw. If you apologize, the very first time he sees you again he will call you mommy. I guarantee it.

Lambsenglish −  Guess Luke won’t be coming over for a while then.

Perimentalpause −  NTA. “If he doesn’t want to be embarrassed by his actions, maybe he should think before he opens his creepy creeper mouth. I’m fine with him not coming over anymore. Maybe I can go a day without him being a c**ep and flirting with me.” You’ll get in a fight over that, but she needs to know her boyfriend’s a turd.

grayblue_grrl −  Aw damn….. He’s not going to come over? Cry about that in the living room while enjoying the peace and quiet.. NTA.

Life_Temperature795 −   She said I “humiliated” him and that he was just trying to be funny. NTA. If he didn’t want to be humiliated he shouldn’t have done something humiliating. Dude clearly doesn’t understand the actions – consequences pathway, so if anything you’re delivering some overdue education.

Your roommate is being ridiculous. It’s not your job to coddle her boyfriend when she isn’t around; DO NOT apologize for his s**tty behavior or for handling it correctly.. Also: she was mad at ME for kicking him out of the living room.

Why aren’t *you* mad at her for him even being in the apartment to begin with when she isn’t there? Especially if he doesn’t know how to act right. I don’t even understand this. When I would hang out at my girlfriends’ apartments, when they weren’t around and there was nothing to do? I’d do their dishes; give their roommates a reason to want me around. Good riddance that this tool doesn’t even want to show up anymore.

Loreo1964 −  Does he pay rent? He shouldn’t be there unless his GF is there. Let’s get some rules in place. Yuck.

HelpfulEchidna3726 −  NTA–he’s icky and now he won’t come back unless you apologize? Stick to your guns. The trash took itself out.

Resident_Warthog4711 −  NTA, yeah I’ve been alive for a rather long time, and none of my friends’ boyfriends have ever called me mommy. Hell, my son never really called me mommy. It was mom from the start. 

ErisGale −  NTA, that’s super uncomfortable. Claire needs to know how he’s making you feel in your own space. A friend of mine dealt with a similar guy, and it only got worse. Stick to your boundaries—it’s your home too.