My partner (28M) whispered “I hate you” when he thought I (37M) was asleep. Do you think he means it?

A man shares a deeply unsettling moment with his partner of seven years. After a minor argument over how to cook pasta, his partner whispered, “I hate you” when he thought he was asleep. Now, he’s left questioning whether those words were said out of anger or if they reveal a deeper truth about their relationship. Read the full story below.

‘ My partner (28M) whispered “I hate you” when he thought I (37M) was asleep. Do you think he means it?’

Me (37M) and my partner (28M) have been together for seven years. We’ve had arguments in the past and almost broke up more than once. The arguments have calmed down and gotten less frequent over the years.

We had an argument today while making dinner. I put the dry pasta in the pot before putting in the boiling water from the kettle and this really got him angry. I was supposed to heat up the water in the pot and then put the pasta in. He stopped talking to me the rest of the evening.

He went into a different room and I went to bed. At about 2am, he came into the room and he thought I was sleeping and whispered “I hate you” and walked back out. I tried to go talk to him at around 2:30am but he is not responding to me, just sitting on his iPad.. He may be calmed down by tomorrow.. What are your thoughts on this?

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

ffyam −  I’m pretty sure he means he hates you.

Ssn81 −  He definitely means it. Time to exit stage left

ZucchiniPractical410 −

1) Yes, he absolutely means it..

2) That’s f’ing creepy and scary

3) Time to take your incorrectly cooked pasta and leave

rumi_oliver −  Yes, and it has nothing to do with the pasta. Get everything in order and leave to rebuild ASAP.

SteelToeSnow −  Do you think he means it?. yes. that’s a f**king awful thing to say over f**king pasta, and ignoring you when you tried to have a conversation is also s**tty. like, if he wasn’t ready to talk yet, he could’ve just said so, but nooo, he ignored you. doesn’t matter if he’s “calmed down” tomorrow, that’s unacceptable behaviour.

MissionHoneydew2209 −  I wonder what else he whispers when you actually are asleep? Always believe people when they tell you they hate you.

Gemfrancis −  I feel like I’m getting brain rot reading these.

DextersGirl −  My terminally ill ex whispered to me one night, “It should be you dying.” He later tried to kill me.. Believe him.

fakerton −  Your crimes against pasta does not warrant personal hate, just a small amount of playful teasing!

No_Construction_7518 −  So he whispered I hate you and then completely ignored you when you spoke to him? Oh honey, you deserve so, so much better.

Words spoken in anger can sometimes reveal deeper frustrations, but they can also be fleeting emotions that don’t reflect true feelings. How should this man approach his partner about the situation? Have you ever experienced a similar moment? Share your thoughts below!