My [M20] girlfriend [F19] of 7 years died in a car accident in front of me. I am completely broken. I need some support.

A Reddit user shared their heartbreaking experience of witnessing their girlfriend’s sudden death in a tragic accident. The user, deeply grieving, expresses their emotional turmoil, having lost the person they were closest to for seven years. The trauma has taken a toll on their mental and emotional well-being,

and they’re struggling to cope with the loss. With the overwhelming weight of grief and guilt, the user is unsure how to move forward or if they’ll ever heal. Read the full story below for more insight into their personal journey of heartbreak and confusion.

‘ My [M20] girlfriend [F19] of 7 years died in a car accident in front of me. I am completely broken. I need some support.’

Hello everyone. This is not my main account on reddit. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years, she was 12 and I was 13 when we first met. Since then we never broke up, and we literally grew up together. Till the last moment we used to love each other a lot. Ten days ago we were walking on the pavement and we were heading to the gym.

After some point, we see a huge truck heading towards us, most likely the driver lost the control of the it. My girlfriend was standing right next to me, on the right side. I managed to dodge the truck, but my girlfriend unfortunately didn’t.. There is not much to say, and describing the whole incident is not an easy thing for me to do.. Basically her body was ripped apart..It was an instant death.

Since then I have been completely broken. I lost someone who was always by my side, always next to me for 7 years. My first love, and someone I thought I could spend my whole life with. She was so young, and that was really unfair.. I am currently studying Psychology at the University, but since her death I haven’t attended any classes.

I am home all day, no mood to do anything and I feel I will never get over it.. I can’t help myself..My family and friends are next to me but still.. Every night I have dreams of her and of the whole incident.. I know I need to eventually move on, but it looks so hard for me.. Has any one of you lost their partner like that? I need some support and some advices on how to handle this.. Thank you everyone.

Check out how the community responded:

Throwaway4373x −  Thank you everyone for those wonderful comments and PMs. I have read every single one, and thanks a lot, really. You made me feel at least a bit better. I will definitely seek for professional help. Even though I am studying psychology, I can’t help myself with it.

I have also talked to my professors and they told me I can take a big break from 6 to 12 months, as long as wish. I am really not ready to attend any classes at this point and currently I am living in my own world. Every night I have dreams of her and the incident. I haven’t slept properly the past days, I have lost over 3kgs in just 10 days and at this point I am just crying myself to sleep.

I will try my best to stay strong, she always loved seeing me happy.. I can’t describe how terrible it was seeing my girl, my love, laying on the road, unconscious, full of blood and her body literally ripped apart. I couldn’t even recognise her. We had so many dreams and we loved each other a lot. Seven years full of love. I hope her soul rests in peace.

I will always love her, she will always be in my heart and I will always be messaging her on facebook every night to wish her a sweet good night as I used to do. This time I won’t be getting an actual response, but for me she is still here, next to me..Listening to me..Watching me.. I will always love you sweetie.. Once again, thank you everyone. I appreciate that.

cityzombie −  Oh my goodness dude, I’m so sorry! That’s extremely traumatizing. Are you seeing a therapist for your grieving yet? I can’t imagine losing anyone like that, even an acquaintance. I’m not sure how much help I’ll be, but you can message me if you need a friend for support 🙁

cdnkevin −  You know you need to move on??!! Are you serious? You need to speak to counselling and therapy service immediately! Talk to them about what you’re facing. Talk about the impact to your life and get support.. Do it now.

LoveAGlassOfWine −  I am so very sorry for your loss. I’ve experienced the sudden death of my mother and helped my friend get over the death of her life partner in a road accident, so I understand a bit about what you’re going through. First of all, you are in shock. You are grieving and you’ve also gone through significant emotional trauma too, having witnessed what happened.

There is no “normal” way to get over this or even to process what’s happened. If you need to do nothing for a while, do nothing for a while. Talk to your university if you haven’t already. Tell them you will need significant compassionate leave. If they need a doctor’s note, a doctor will give you a note. Do this to take the pressure off you.

You won’t feel you need to do anything or you’re failing by not doing anything if you have agreed time off. I wasn’t able to work for a month after my mother died. If you need to talk to someone, there are lots of grief therapists and charities around. If you don’t want to talk, that’s fine too. I found I kept reliving the traumatic last day with my mother.

I replayed it over and over again. This is normal and is part of your brain processing what you experienced. If it goes on for months, it can be a sign of PTSD, so watch out for that. PTSD can be resolved better the sooner you get professional help. For now, just be kind to yourself. There’s no right way to grieve. There’s nothing you should be doing.

Just remember everything you feel is totally normal and expected after you lose someone you love this much. You can’t be weird or wrong. It will get better I promise you that! A piece of your heart will always stay with your girlfriend. They say time heals all wounds. I believe that! It doesn’t mean you’re not left with a little bit of a scar though.

[Reddit User] −  Rest in Peace, kid.. Love never dies.

troubledmess −  I hardly respond to posts these days but reading this broke my heart. I am so very sorry you are going through this. I can’t even imagine the pain you must feel. I agree with what’s been said here already. Please see a therapist, and allow yourself to grieve.

[Reddit User] −  I know you’ve already gotten a lot of wise words and support and I can’t add much, but I’m also a student who has experienced traumatic loss in the middle of the semester. Take as much time as you need off. A semester, hell, even a year. For your current classes, professors may offer an “incomplete” so you can come back and finish the work when you’re ready,

or the administration may offer a withdrawal that won’t put failing grades on your transcript. This is 100% a circumstance that they will accommodate. School absolutely does not come before your time to grieve. You will not learn anything when you are hurting like this. Communicate with your advisor, who will probably be willing to contact the deans/professors for you.

I lost my brother five years ago. Grieving is so, so hard. It’s going to hurt like hell for a long time. The “stages of grief” are b**lshit; every person goes through different phases at different times and in different orders. But you will make it. One day you’ll realize that it hurts a little less, and even if the next day is worse than ever,

those not-miserable days will turn into okay days which will turn into good days, and they’ll come more and more often. Moving on does not mean forgetting. It’s not disrespectful to be happy again after this loss. I’m assuming the memorial has already occurred, and for me, that was the most gut-wrenchingly painful part.

There is a lot of pain to come, but there’s still joy to be had. Don’t rush into therapy. Take time to collect your thoughts and feelings; go when you are ready to talk. Therapy doesn’t do s**t if you can’t communicate what you feel. And for now, do whatever makes you feel a little better (within reason). I wish you all the strength you’ll need in the months and years to come.

Hit_Girl_14 −  I really wish you could have been able to handle this and survived. I’m so sorry to your brother and family. I wish more could have been done to help you. Rest In Peace. I hope that you and your girlfriend are together and you have a smile on your face now. Prayers to your family. Reading the update that you took your life has me heartbroken and is such a reminder that when people ask for help sometimes it’s so much more serious than we realize. Rest In Peace man.

[Reddit User] −  There is nothing I can say that hasnt already been said. This hurt me reading it and the best I can say is, take things slow. Take care of yourself as she would of wanted. I know it hurts, and it sucks to say it will always hurt. You need to do your best to get through this. Dont take anything anyone says for granted, your a thin balloon of emotions right now. The best is to just absorbs advice.

[Reddit User] −  I am so f**king sorry, brother. Please for the love of God go and see a counselor. This isn’t something you get over. This is serious trauma. Please go and get help. My heart breaks for you. You will be in my prayers tonight.

How would you offer support to someone experiencing such profound loss? Do you believe the user will eventually heal, or is this a trauma that might take a lifetime to process? Share your thoughts below and join the discussion.