My husband wants me to get a bo*b job

A Reddit user shared their concerns about their husband’s repeated suggestion for her to get a breast enlargement. She feels upset because she has always been content with her body and her husband seemed to be happy with it when they met. Over time, however, his remarks about her appearance and his own hair loss have made her feel insecure.

The user is struggling with her husband’s increasing dissatisfaction and how it’s affecting their intimacy, as they’ve been having less sex and she feels rejected. She’s now questioning what steps she should take.

‘ My husband wants me to get a bo*b job’

We’ve been married for 6 years. I have smallish breasts which I am ok with but my husband is often suggesting I have a b*ob enlargement. I don’t want to go through all that pain, I have always been this size and was like this when we met and it never seemed to bother him then. Am I right to be upset?

I have tried saying I am happy the way I am and that he was happy enough when we met. Why is it now an issue? I don’t want to feel insecure but I am starting too. He also often talks about his hair as he’s becoming bald, it’s absolutely not a problem for me and I made some small jokes about it in the past but he’s convinced it is a problem.

He wants to get an hair transplant and he usually brings that up when he talks about my b*ob job, almost like he would undergo that procedure “in exchange” for my b*objob. He’d probably look better with more hair but I still love the way he looks now and I don’t need him to change. We’re having less s** lately (about one time every two weeks) and I’m always initiating,

I’m starting to feel rejected and insecure. What should I do?

See what others had to share with OP:

Mention-It-ALL −  You have every right to be upset. I would be pissed, personally. Getting b**ast implants is major surgery, it’s not a. walk in the park.. Have you asked him “why now?”

IvankaDump −  I had a b*ob job to please a boyfriend. He made one comment, one time, about my breasts, and I positively obsessed over it until it seemed like surgery was the only solution. He paid, happily. I was absolutely NOT prepared for what my breasts looked like as they healed.

There was swelling in all the wrong places, and I had to wear a strap across my chest to force the implants into place for months. MONTHS. I had Botox injections to help relax the muscles. It didn’t work. And then, I had to have a second surgery less than six months later to cut my chest muscles again so that the implants would fall into the desired position.

In all that time I felt disfigured. I felt like a monster. Whatever insecurities I had before the procedure were nothing compared to what I felt afterwards. And that’s not taking into account the physical pain. It was really, really hard. And in the end, I never felt “enough” for that boyfriend. I left him less than a year later.

My new boyfriend loves my fake b*obs, and I’m sure would’ve loved my real ones, too. That’s because he loves ME. Don’t change for your partner. Not like that.

Sandmint −  It’s very upsetting that he wants you to undergo a major surgery for aesthetics. A hair transplant and b**ast implants are not at all on the same level as far as procedures go. If you don’t want a b**ast enhancement, tell him that it’s not happening and to stop bringing it up. He’s being disrespectful. It wasn’t an issue in the beginning, it should not be an issue now.

Talk to him about the decreased s** and how he’s knocking down your body confidence by proposing that you have surgery. If he wants you to have your breasts done, he should have his b**ast enhancement done first. Only fair.

[Reddit User] −  Your husband is being an a**hole tbh, sit down and have a serious talk with him. I have small b*obs too op and my bf jokes rarely but when he does I know he’s legit joking and never undermines any area of my body. Your husband is displaying really toxic and gross behavior

charliedog8 −  My wife’s ex-husband wanted her to have a b*ob job, too. I think her tits are great just the way they are. Perhaps that’s the difference between a husband and an ex-husband.

glowloris −  Ask him to go through penile enlargement surgery. See how he likes the idea.

LetsMarket −  There’s always someone that’ll suck your nipples right off your chest, no matter what size. If he wants bigger b*obs, tell him to get a b*ob job himself.

Cilantroduction −  I have had a tummy tuck. The surgery, recovery, and aftermath are very serious. Your breasts will be bigger, but, less sensitive and scarred. Your nipples will not be the same, in fact, you could experience numbness. I know, your loving spouse is saying “hey, what does that have to do with my d**k? I want big b*obies!”

Well, he will have to suddenly be supportive and patient and kind and help you out post surgery. And, being that he is the kind of fellow to pressure his bride about a major surgical procedure to alter a supposed flaw in your physique, im gonna say this is a bad scenerio.

Personally, i wpuld be super super pissed abput his attempt to objectify me and make me feel bad about my rack. If i were you, id keep my normal-sized breasts and pressure him to get his f**king s**tty attutude altered. He is terrible to do this. Dont do this major surgery unles YOU REALLY WANT IT. HE GETS NO SAY. NONE. Uggh.

ExplodingHalibut −  my wife and I agree, that if he wanted big tits, he should of specified that before getting married.. ​ s**ew his balding argument out of the window, its your body and if he isnt finding you attractive physically anymore then the problem is some where else.

Do you think the husband’s comments are a sign of deeper issues in their relationship, or is it a misunderstanding about expectations and self-image? How should the wife address her feelings of insecurity and rejection without compromising her own comfort? Share your thoughts below and join the discussion!